@NoDoxGregBrady @Punished_Potatus @sickburnbro @Starprophet1 @DW2 @TrevorGoodchild I was married 20 years to a narcissistic cheating woman that refused to admit any fault was hers. She was wonderful when we first met but over the years her mental problems became more apparent.

I had five children with her.

I held out as long as I was able but was slowly dying inside.
I did 90 percent of the child raising and housework as it was, so saw no point in staying in a dead relationship.
My two oldest were already adults by that point and the third was 16.
My two youngest were 2 and 3.

I wanted full custody but as narcissists are very good at hiding their true nature I had to settle for 50/50.

I have since remarried a woman that is supportive, and a true help mate.

but...

Both of my daughters refuse to speak to me any more, making up garbage reasons and trying to cause me and my wife legal trouble, and my two youngest have a lot of emotional issues that we are working thru.

It is compounded by the fact that all the progress we make with them is undone when they go back to my ex.

There is no doubt that what you say is correct, but sometimes we are put into a no win situation. It's just trying to rebuild a life and provide as much love and attention to my boys as I am able.