"what are you talking about?"
While we're waiting for an answer to that question, perhaps @dale could work up explanations for these points from his own profile:
"I think defederating is an unweildy hammer and that "Embrace, extend, and extinguish" can (and should) go in the other direction for a change"
Really? Do what we claim to despise? Really?
"Instead of trying to ban people from being able to talk to their family, get their family involved in the fediverse, let them see how much better things could be"
Maybe people are already "talking to their family" on Insta and Facebook
But we need to get them on the Fediverse too?
"We dont need conflate being able to run a server with being able to make safety decisions on your behalf."
Yeah. You chose this instance. Sit down, suck it up, and don't have any expectations about what the admins or mods are doing or not doing
And stop whining about your precious "safety"
cc @lmorchard