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@Rasp After teen came out as NB, realized that their struggle was less health issues- as societal & mental, including withdrawal from most/all social stereotypical gender practices (dating, dress, dances, etc.) However, the struggle to understand how NB operates on perceptual information is foreign [to AxAB in heterosexual relationships (aka parents)] and a real struggle at times. Clothing, deodorants & healthcare, toys/entertainment- are all largely gender oriented. Imagine a gender reveal party, but the color of the balloons was medium gray or black. Responses are often - “Huh, what? How can we celebrate that? Congratulations, you got a ‘generic’ child.” (note lack of focus on either happiness or health.) I’m finding that while my teen struggles less with gender, they do feel like an outcast from society- but also their peers largely don’t care within the educational setting. It’s mostly after school release that NBs feel more isolated, since they aren’t involved in those gender based activities. 🤷🏻♂️