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   💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷 (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:12:17 JST 💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷

   Anyone asking what a NB persons AGAB is has at minimum critically missed the point

   do you think people identify as enbies because they LIKE being associated with their birth gender all the time?

   Do you really think bringing it up is a good idea??

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     💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷 (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:17:12 JST 💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷

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     Our deadnames are DEAD and they should remain dead.

     A past not to be dredged up.

     Cut off anyone who will not be dissuaded from doing so.

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     💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷 (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:19:07 JST 💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷

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     • Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

     @mja that is not better

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     Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc) (mja@comp.lain.la)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:19:09 JST Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

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     @Rasp this is why i ask if they're a theyfab or a theymab instead
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     💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷 (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:20:10 JST 💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷

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     • Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

     @mja its the same really. it misses the exact same point and I can prove it,

     WHAT DO THE M AND THE F STAND FOR??

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     Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc) (mja@comp.lain.la)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:20:11 JST Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

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     @Rasp is that so
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     💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷 (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:21:15 JST 💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷

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     • Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

     @mja Point Proven

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     Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc) (mja@comp.lain.la)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:21:16 JST Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

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     @Rasp male and female
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     💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷 (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:23:29 JST 💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷

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     • Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

     @mja the point is still being missed.

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     Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc) (mja@comp.lain.la)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:23:30 JST Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

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     @Rasp it's not "male or female" though its "theymab or theyfab" these are very different things if youve met them
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     💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷 (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:29:11 JST 💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷

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     • Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

     @mja Enbies do not want to be associated with their AGAB - that is the whole point.

     What do terms like Theyfab do? they split NB people by their AGAB the very thing they were trying to get away from

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     Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc) (mja@comp.lain.la)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 08:29:12 JST Maijčika 🌲 (Public Arc)

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     @Rasp yes idgi
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     DopeGhoti (dopeghoti@infosec.exchange)'s status on Saturday, 23-Dec-2023 10:14:38 JST DopeGhoti

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     @Rasp
     Beyond missing the point, it seems unfathomably uncouth too. Just as socially outlandish as approaching anyone and asking "what is your birth gender?" would be. Outside of, say, an endocrinologist's office (and I will freely admit ignorance as to whether it would be justified even there) I can't comprehend how it out to be anyone's business other than one's own.

     Anyone who asks such things can be trusted: to be the jerkbag ey has just demonstrated emself to be.

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     💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷 (rasp@raru.re)'s status on Monday, 25-Dec-2023 09:46:25 JST 💜 AdoraBeryl 🩷

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     • 🦊🍸Faux around & find out⚠️

     @camstonefaux I felt like that my whole life

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     🦊🍸Faux around & find out⚠️ (camstonefaux@furry.engineer)'s status on Monday, 25-Dec-2023 09:46:27 JST 🦊🍸Faux around & find out⚠️

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     @Rasp After teen came out as NB, realized that their struggle was less health issues- as societal & mental, including withdrawal from most/all social stereotypical gender practices (dating, dress, dances, etc.) However, the struggle to understand how NB operates on perceptual information is foreign [to AxAB in heterosexual relationships (aka parents)] and a real struggle at times. Clothing, deodorants & healthcare, toys/entertainment- are all largely gender oriented. Imagine a gender reveal party, but the color of the balloons was medium gray or black. Responses are often - “Huh, what? How can we celebrate that? Congratulations, you got a ‘generic’ child.” (note lack of focus on either happiness or health.) I’m finding that while my teen struggles less with gender, they do feel like an outcast from society- but also their peers largely don’t care within the educational setting. It’s mostly after school release that NBs feel more isolated, since they aren’t involved in those gender based activities. 🤷🏻♂️