@Tony you have to set up rules so your provider doesnt get upset, even though an instance should be fun for everyone, a provider who just doesnt care as long as its not illegal doesnt exist yet.

if you have users you have to consider what type of instances they interact with and basically abide by that admin so the users dont leave because of a defed, i used to post about grafs real name at one point on a private instance but my users actually interact with poast so now i have to put their thoughts into mind and be very careful with what my users post about now. if it contains his real name grafs ego is going to be shattered and people will leave, making this instance pointless, FSE is invuln basically because graf is friends with pete

i have to actually janny my users now if they do something wrong, i don't like confronting them, i just like having a good time on my instance. i don't like kicking out people who use my stuff. it does hurt

theres also a lot of security you have to keep in mind with these things, i am now a higher target of hax and such just because i run an instance.

it's fun, but it has some costs