@lirazel
When a man messages me on FetLife and it's a fairly basic message, I usually respond by asking what specifically on my profile interested them.
The most common answer is "your smile."
For fuck's sake.
There are so many things they could pick instead. All they have to do is mention one single thing that they read on my profile. But reading is hard, apparently.
I'm thinking of giving up on responding to cishet men entirely. They're either clueless or wanting to cheat. Fuck that.