@Dangerous_beans yeah, absolutely, i think theres a part of me that just needs to convey to them that no one is going to save them and no one will notice if they dont transition. I still feel at least 85% of trans people are in the same position as them, not transitioning, so theres nothing new or magical about denial and pushing it away. You're the girl in the horror movie who runs up the stairs when the killer is inside rather than gets out of the house.