@lewdthewides @allison it's alright, it doesn't really scare me I just need to accept that sometimes the social media parts of the internet can't be as forgiving and open as i'd like
instance i'm on in specific for example already has 10 instances blocking us, a few of those being for basically "associating with people we have deemed to be risky or bad or whatever" - i think one of them was even for associating with someone who associates with an instance like that, which i totally don't get why they'd block for that. it's way too far imo