@amerika @p @wjmaggos @jeremiah @Moon

You can't win playing the cancel game because it can and will be used against you eventually.

It sucks when people tell you to kill yourself but at that point they have either lost the argument or they are responding to you telling them to do something they don't want to do. Dialogue has been shut down at that point, probably some element of rejection too.

Sometimes we do have to ask ourselves how our behaviour has led to the reactions that we get and how we can better respond next time if we want to minimise that. Sometimes it is them, sometimes it is us, and if we keep getting the same unpleasant experiences then it might be worth exploring what we're saying or doing to get those reactions. Even asking someone why they say what they do can be enlightening. I do find the concept of the filter to be interesting, because people that use it know that the poster will report them, block them or block their instance. That they will be rejected for it. They expect that. But if you don't do those things then that surprises them and could open dialogue up. But I suspect that this is going to get lost in translation even though this is the most common form from people on blocked instances.

We could instead be asking ourselves why people feel the need to filter in this way, what are they responding to and how can we bridge the gap if our goal is more people interacting that hold different opinions? It doesn't just happen without a cause.