@jeremiah @wjmaggos @amerika @Moon @p

I second this.

I appreciate being polite when it comes to interactions but this doesn't always mean that I get to interact with people that don't agree with me. Some people are set in their ways and will other you even if you are polite simply for holding different viewpoints. You are the out-group. If you want to be a part of the in-group then you have to meet all these confusing conditions first and even if you do then your past can be used against you. You can't win this when conditions are put in place.

Besides that, why is it just one side that is expected to change?

Don't be an arsehole or else we'll block the instance you are on, forcing you to be isolated from your instance or your entire instance isolated from us. And arsehole is arbitrary and depends on what we think being an arsehole is so you have to jump through hoops to meet this requirement to interact with this instance and at our pace so you have to always be ready or else we assume bad faith. And you aren't allowed to object while we behave like arseholes and hold this against you. It's okay when we are abusive, lie about you and behave like arseholes with these conditions but not you. You have to change for us, you can't expect us to adapt to you.