@kfaythe87 My only advice would be to try to broaden your location search, maybe? Be ready to travel.
Always remember that women now are, rightfully so, a bit on the defensive and wary with the TRA/MRA offensive/threats we see everywhere on social media, and you need to allow them time to trust you. And vice versa, you don’t want to get doxxed or stalked or whatever those lunatics are ready to do to scare women to shut them up.
Also, my guess is that you might want to reach out to organized groups like @WDI_USA, WoLF (https://womensliberationfront.org/) and other feminist groups to ask for help and if they’ve heard of anything like you are looking for. You could even ask @mk in here to see if she knows anything or has something to recommend you.
It’ll take a lot of patience, perseverance and work to build your contacts you can safely rely on. Women are scattered, prevented from meeting and talking, so hang on and keep looking.