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   kfaythe87 (kfaythe87@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 21-Oct-2023 04:20:53 JST kfaythe87
   Struggling finding connections with other women, unfortunately. I love this space, so thankful for it, and would like to build community here and elsewhere. I just don't really know where to go to have conversations and spend time with other women. I live in eastern Kentucky, and most of my friends are married with children. I've chosen to remain single (I would love to go full separatist) and am childless, and it often feels like friendship takes a backseat when women build families. My "politics" are another issue - not many open radical feminists in eastern Kentucky that I can find, and the friends I made in college are pretty libfem-y. I would say my only close friends are hours and miles and miles away, and there is a serious brain drain here. My region like so many others is suffering and women I meet are more focused on subsistence than anything else. I wanna get active in my community, but I'd also just like women who are more aligned with me to talk to. Have any of you found any luck meeting women for friendship on apps like Bumble? I've applied for an access code to OvarIt, but I'm stumped as where to make meaningful connections. I tried Discord but I'm 36 and those chats trend pretty young...
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     Chronic-Yonic :flag_lesbian: (chronic-yonic@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 21-Oct-2023 04:20:52 JST Chronic-Yonic :flag_lesbian:

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     @kfaythe87 My only advice would be to try to broaden your location search, maybe? Be ready to travel.

     Always remember that women now are, rightfully so, a bit on the defensive and wary with the TRA/MRA offensive/threats we see everywhere on social media, and you need to allow them time to trust you. And vice versa, you don’t want to get doxxed or stalked or whatever those lunatics are ready to do to scare women to shut them up.

     Also, my guess is that you might want to reach out to organized groups like @WDI_USA, WoLF (https://womensliberationfront.org/) and other feminist groups to ask for help and if they’ve heard of anything like you are looking for. You could even ask @mk in here to see if she knows anything or has something to recommend you.

     It’ll take a lot of patience, perseverance and work to build your contacts you can safely rely on. Women are scattered, prevented from meeting and talking, so hang on and keep looking.

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     Macha (macha@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 21-Oct-2023 04:20:59 JST Macha

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     @Chronic-Yonic @kfaythe87 @WDI_USA @mk That is good advice for building a safe GC/feminist network. I suggest that at the same time you try to find some safe local groups. These will not be places to discuss feminist, gender or trans issues but just to connect with either like minded women or just good women.
     
     I get a lot of support from my local book group and a local volunteer organisation I am part of. At the book club we do not talk directly about gender ideology but have discussed books where this does feature. The conversations have been less scary than I worried about before hand and the other women were interested in what I had to say about why I was uncomfortable about a trans character in one book. It turned out other women were unsettled by that book too. Even if they were not coming from the same place as me we found a lot of common ground.
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     Chronic-Yonic :flag_lesbian: (chronic-yonic@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 21-Oct-2023 04:20:59 JST Chronic-Yonic :flag_lesbian:

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     @macha @kfaythe87 @WDI_USA @mk Good advice, Macha!

     I wonder if in the UK you are not more and better organized than we are in North America. You have wonderful leaders that inspire and give courage.

     We have a few here, but their input is either concentrated on Twatter and they are silenced in the media or I dunno, maybe their possibilities of being part of feminist events are too few and too far in between?

     I was excited when I learned KJK would come here to hold Let Women Speak events but she’s probably too busy with her newborn political party and such. Besides, chances are her security team would cost too much with the bloody craziness in Tranada.

     We need a JK Rowling on this side of the pond.

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     Macha (macha@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 21-Oct-2023 04:20:59 JST Macha

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     @Chronic-Yonic @kfaythe87 @WDI_USA @mk I don't think it is about being better organised in the UK. It is more that trying to do anything here is like herding cats.
     
     At times it is very frustrating and especially when you are part of a business, political group or national organisation trying to get things done or when someone you disagree with suddenly gets a lot of traction. Overall though I love how unruly we are and how, despite our historic and cobbled together constitution and laws, we often do good stuff.
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     Chronic-Yonic :flag_lesbian: (chronic-yonic@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 21-Oct-2023 04:21:06 JST Chronic-Yonic :flag_lesbian:

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     @macha @kfaythe87 @WDI_USA @mk 🤩

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     chilady2022 (chilady2022@spinster.xyz)'s status on Friday, 27-Oct-2023 05:03:52 JST chilady2022

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     @Chronic-Yonic @kfaythe87 @WDI_USA @mk I've had same issues.. im in Chicago again. I did stay in SC for a few yrs. That's why i love this space so much..... There are also scum males that linger around here. No place is 100% safe.
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     kfaythe87 (kfaythe87@spinster.xyz)'s status on Friday, 27-Oct-2023 05:03:52 JST kfaythe87

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     @chilady2022 @Chronic-Yonic @WDI_USA @mk They hate the idea that women could ever have anything and not want them around, have to stick their noses and their other vile parts in everything. I have decided to try and completely separate myself from men, period. It's difficult, and I have to work with men and deal with men daily, but they are no longer welcome in my personal life. The only exception is my father, who is thankfully not some pornified zombie woman-hater.
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