@violetmadder The reason people are saying this at all is to refute people who claim someone can't be raped if they're not attractive, or that someone rapes just because they're horny.
I haven't seen a problem with this, so I thank you both for digging into this, and for the point that rape out of negligence, where the perpetrator does not see that it's rape, happens exactly out of both power and sex, privilege and entitlement plus desire.
I have nothing to add, but a lot to think about.
@RiotLinguistics