@Jennifer_Lee @Gnomeshatecheese @LostInCalifornia Gosh, all of this is overwhelming and sad.
I agree with everything you wrote here.
Re: pluralistic ignorance, I want everyone to understand that it is mostly dangerous (e.g., to career) to discuss this issue online. Almost everyone probably can discuss it with a few more people in real life than we currently are. I mean, even with people we don’t know extremely well. We can innocently bring up single-sex spaces as though there is nothing wrong with mentioning them. It’s really quite safe. The people who want to get us want to get us by sifting through online content.