Well, then you're just going to have to figure out how to not be offended by "nigger" and "faggot".

See, those are like the "we aren't giving them up" words. Those words are sort of the markers for "free speech". If your ask is "accept all genders and LGBTQ members and be nice", then our ask is let us say "nigger" and "faggot".

It's a sort of cultural disconnect. When middle class people spend a lot of time in academia, or the corporate world you get used to being in a protective "bubble" of like minded people. This side of the fediverse is simply people who are not apart of that life and who spend their time with people who are not sheltered. We don't have an HR department.

The world isn't always a nice place. And, words, by themselves, can't actually hurt you.

This actually sums up the use of "fag" pretty well - it's rarely used as a derogatory term towards gay individuals. lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6i7a0cwyDDw