@emmalilian Word. We write a lot about "looking hot" and stuff, and it's good to do so, but for me, the real magic was in how just coming out and starting the journey at all opened up so much new space for self care, the chance at joy, room for love and kindness, etc. So many of my trans friends say this as well. It is, as you said, because we're no longer wasting all our effort on coping.