To the new Mastodon arrivals: welcome! Feel free to ignore the self-appointed tone police that are telling you how you should behave based on their 3 weeks or 3 years on here.
As someone that's been on Mastodon longer than >80% of everyone else (i.e. late October), I can assure you that nobody- and I mean nobody- on the tone patrol is speaking on behalf of anyone except themselves.
Just be courteous, check the contrarianism at the door, and you'll fit right in. Trust me.