you're placing words in my mouth, and then proceeding to attack me through that strawman
the existence of differences between what we stand for, rather than pretending they don't exist as someone else did, does not translate to not finding common cause. understanding our differences is essential to be able to cooperate effectively in ways that reward all cooperating parties equitably. it's attempts to pretend there are no differences that's harmful and seems like attempted exploitation; misrepresenting it as if we were making a fuss over nothing attacks us in demeaning that which is important to us but that isn't to you. it's not kind, it's hostile. that's what draws attention away from what we have in common, from opportunities for cooperation, and pushes people to attack us and perceive us and you as the two seemingly indistinguishable but conflicted-to-death organizations mocked by monty python. the misperception that we're the same, that the differences don't matter, can be trivially traced back to OSS's campaigns to sweep the differences under the carpet, while demeaning our values and our struggle for actually different goals. these were not kind, they were and remain hostile and divisive.