@Gnomeshatecheese @Flick It's an interesting phenomenon I've seen over many years.
I once worked at a YMCA which employed a lady with learning difficulties. Whenever her mentor from SCOPE came to see how she was doing, he would often tell her what she could and couldn't manage (you don't like loud noises do you) and she would repeat it as if a mantra. I have a friend with boys with some learning delay and it's fascinating listening to them talk about interventions at school. One told me that his TA says he's not allowed to have a diary because she is in charge of his timetable.
Some support is needed for some people and I wouldn't wish to deny that to anyone, but I've become convinced that many adults who engage in such support are themselves addicted to controlling those in their charge and keeping them dependent instead of supporting them to gain some agency. It makes them feel needed and they can tell themselves how good they are. And we end up with children growing into adults who could be happy and independent, but are instead convinced that they need props to function because of a special label.
It makes me sad. Perhaps I need a support squirrel.