I can admit to some of the same, especially with previously being a young naive person on the internet long ago, tumbling into therianthropy circles and many other corners of the internet. I don't see much wrong in fantasy, unless people warp their minds into thinking they'll "never be happy" until they're able to be close enough to living in a specific fantasy. Unfortunately many seem to go into furry fandom as an escape from "being an adult", with very little of any self-policing or self-moderation over being a rational person, that a lot of it just gets lost entirely in a whole crowd. Just watching the shift of the Overton window of furry communities in the past decade is pretty alarming.