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   K.J. Elphinstone (katyelphinstone@mas.to)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 09:30:45 JST K.J. Elphinstone

   The five neurodivergent love languages 😊💖

   #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticJoy #Neurodivergent

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 09:30:43 JST Miakoda

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah @KatyElphinstone Have you not been squished?! 🥺️

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     Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼 (farah@beige.party)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 09:30:44 JST Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

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     @KatyElphinstone I’m not really familiar with “pls crush my soul back into my body” but yeah the rest are definitely legit

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     K.J. Elphinstone (katyelphinstone@mas.to)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 09:32:02 JST K.J. Elphinstone

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah

     I think it's maybe that firm hug that can sometimes work for panic attacks and meltdowns and shutdowns.... I remember my son used to ask me or his dad to actually lie on top of him. Just, the weight, there is something about that 🤷♀️

     Like pressure blankets perhaps?

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 09:32:02 JST Miakoda

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @KatyElphinstone @farah My cat will do this. He doesn't like to, but he will anyway when I'm lost in anxity land, or post meltdown

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 09:33:29 JST Miakoda

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     @KatyElphinstone I need more Crush My Soul, but I currently don't have anyone who wants to do that.

     My cat tries post melt, but he is only 8 lbs

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 10:54:11 JST Miakoda

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah @KatyElphinstone Same, re: parents.
     But I've had partners and friends who squish.

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     Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼 (farah@beige.party)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 10:54:13 JST Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

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     • Miakoda

     @hellomiakoda @KatyElphinstone I don’t think so! My parents weren’t very physical/ tactile in expressing their affection. I have very little memory of my mother holding me

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 11:00:44 JST Miakoda

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah @KatyElphinstone I hope you acquire some (assuming you want that).
     Snuggly besties are what makes life tolerable.

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     Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼 (farah@beige.party)'s status on Wednesday, 15-Oct-2025 11:00:45 JST Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

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     • Miakoda

     @hellomiakoda @KatyElphinstone Partner, yes; friends, no

     I don’t if it’s a huge red flag, I don’t have any close friends irl who would hug/squish me

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     Steve's Place (steter@mastodon.stevesworld.co)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:26 JST Steve's Place

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @blogdiva @401matthall @farah @KatyElphinstone It works for everyone to some extent.

     My mother crocheted some... the name is not coming to me... essentially large shawls that go across the bottom of the bed. Weights the feet, and warms them. Great in cool weather.

     Yeah, not a fan of weighted blankets, either. I think I'd rather sleep in a chair, lol.

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     your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦 (blogdiva@mastodon.social)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:27 JST your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     the blanket is too much all over me, but as a kid, i would put all my dolls on my feet to sleep. sure enough, it’s even better with the blanket.

     i also have discovered that using a separate heated/electric blanket calms me down.

     @401matthall @farah @KatyElphinstone

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     Matt Hall (401matthall@mastodon.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:29 JST Matt Hall

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah @KatyElphinstone

     I contributed to _two_ human beings and that is probably too many.

     In addition, the offspring have been mad about it ever since.

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     Matt Hall (401matthall@mastodon.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:30 JST Matt Hall

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah @KatyElphinstone

     I'm not making any more spawn no matter how well they help reduce my anxiety temporarily.

     But I can appreciate the occasional usefulness.

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     Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼 (farah@beige.party)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:31 JST Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

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     • Matt Hall

     @401matthall @KatyElphinstone Single digit aged kids are perfect. Unless they are chonky like me. Then maybe you don’t move the whole day the next day. Frankly thats also acceptable at times

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     Matt Hall (401matthall@mastodon.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:33 JST Matt Hall

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah @KatyElphinstone

     Fair point. I do feel like people would be OK to a point and maybe a decent sized pet... But I'm game for the blanket itself.

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     Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼 (farah@beige.party)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:34 JST Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

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     @401matthall @KatyElphinstone Weighted blankets are the bomb. I love mine; unlike other people’s it actually a blanket 😂

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     K.J. Elphinstone (katyelphinstone@mas.to)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:35 JST K.J. Elphinstone

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah

     Aha... so apparently it (weight or pressure, such as a weighted blanket) can stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system. That would explain why it can work for anxiety/fear/panic.

     https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/about/copyright/

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     Matt Hall (401matthall@mastodon.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:35 JST Matt Hall

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @KatyElphinstone @farah

     Aaaaah. Mayhaps I _do_ wanna try a weighted blanket.

     Thanks for sharing!

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     K.J. Elphinstone (katyelphinstone@mas.to)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:36 JST K.J. Elphinstone

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     • Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

     @farah

     It can't be entirely weird, I think, as it works for more of us... I think it must calm the nervous system? There must be a reason why... Now I am curious and I'm going to look it up!

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     Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼 (farah@beige.party)'s status on Saturday, 15-Nov-2025 19:39:37 JST Farah 🏳️‍🌈🖖🏼

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     @KatyElphinstone Omg! It me. I used to constantly tell my family to sit on me, until they collectively decided its weird