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   受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:11:31 JST 受不了包

   i'm still in my twenties, but i was reflecting on my twenties as if i was done with it and honestly? even though i've done a lot of things i enjoyed through my twenties (trying new things, etc) i still would be happy to get out of my twenties and hopefully onto something better (i'm assuming). i mean objectively it's easily 100-1000x better than when i was growing up, and like 50x better than when i was in college, but i still feel like overall it's not been that great, i haven't done things that i feel like would be 10/10 things to do in your twenties (like hiking mount everest or whatever the fuck if i felt so inclined, those sorts of things that you can only do with as minimal responsibilities as possible) and i feel like most of it has just been biding my time until i can get into a better living situation (house, having a truck, seeing my partner every day, etc), and even then like a paid off house only happens in your 40s-50s generally. is there anything i should do to try and salvage the rest of my twenties besides quitting my job and doing the crazy thing? i feel like i already have too many responsibilities do like a hiking the applachian trail or whatever thing, not that i even really want to at this point. maybe i feel like this just because i haven't really learned anything new lately. starting over with something like becoming a machinist or robotics person seems like it would just set me back much farther financially and career-wise, etc.

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     受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:13:53 JST 受不了包

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     objectively the best thing i should do right now is just continue saving money to get through this next recession if it fucks up my job, but my current gig seems pretty secure for that (medical)

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     受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:15:17 JST 受不了包

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     @kon@kokoro.garden that's what everyone says but the riskiest thing i can think of that would be the closest to being "right" would be going back to school to do like a masters in robotics or embedded stuff and i'm pretty sure that would end with me blowing my brains out with all the stress and anxiety of graduate classes, and besides that i really don't know what else to do. maybe i've painted myself into a corner by wanting to just live in this area of the country and not willing to live anywhere else

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     kon (kon@kokoro.garden)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:15:18 JST kon

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     @shibao being young is for taking risks. if you have love, and you have the room, i would take the shot (and set points at which you can tell yourself you succeeded or failed). but the risky thing usually looks good on the resume anyway

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     受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:23:04 JST 受不了包

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     @kon@kokoro.garden i think i need to read more but i don't even know what i should be reading. just flailing in the name of challenging myself seems pointless if there's nothing to actually challenge myself with

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     kon (kon@kokoro.garden)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:23:05 JST kon

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     @shibao I think that's fine too. challenging yourself is good and challenging yourself in an area you're deeply motivated in is even better. nothing can defeat you bao-san.

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     Jonny (jonny@annihilation.social)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:31:58 JST Jonny

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     @shibao @kon
     You should read some of those old Penthouse pulp books from the 90s. Them shits are better than gas station dick pills.
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     受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:31:58 JST 受不了包

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     @Jonny@annihilation.social @kon@kokoro.garden i grew up on archie comics, sometimes i see them in the checkout line and i smile because i'm glad that they're still around

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     Fish of Rage (sun@shitposter.world)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:32:36 JST Fish of Rage

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     @shibao @kon @Jonny every time I see them I ask the person if they have ever sold one and they say no
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     受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:35:25 JST 受不了包

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     @kon@kokoro.garden i'm very satisfied that i'm not in financial insecurity like I once was but it all still feels like a mistake. maybe me wanting to settle down and pay a mortgage in my twenties is as misguided as trying to be a professional athlete in your 50s. i'm not sure

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     kon (kon@kokoro.garden)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:35:26 JST kon

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     @shibao I meant school. but even flailing is at least moving. and you often need to move at all to see where the right thing is. idk. depends how satisfied you are

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     受不了包 (shibao@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:45:46 JST 受不了包

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     @kon@kokoro.garden i think maybe i need to get in better touch for what i really want in life, on paper everything seems right but it feels wrong

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     kon (kon@kokoro.garden)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 04:45:47 JST kon

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     @shibao you're trying to anticipate what you'll regret you mean? if right now there's nothing that feels wrong, if you're truly happy then ride that. ppl get to regret from desiring more and ignoring it for years

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     Qadse Sanur Qut ibn Quaadibz :catsader: (nerthos@shitposter.world)'s status on Saturday, 10-May-2025 12:50:09 JST Qadse Sanur Qut ibn Quaadibz :catsader:

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     @shibao IMO the main problem is not what you've achieved, but rather the idea that you're on a timer. A lot of those things you mentioned you can just do in your 30s just as well as you could in your 20s, maybe even easier as long as you stay in shape because your personal economy should be better.
     You can try to rush it if you feel it's important to you to get something done before X arbitrary time, but I think it's better for peace of mind to just be sure you didn't miss out on realistic opportunities you've had and made the most of them, than to worry over crazy goals or fantasies.
     If it's really important to you to do a specific thing like the mountain hike, and believe you'll regret not doing it, start scheduling it and seeing how you can manage days off work and budget to make it possible.
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