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   Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Thursday, 27-Mar-2025 20:14:29 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

   It's starting to get tiring discussing shows in a certain online community *cough*MDL*cough* because more often that not, the people who join the discussions are emotionally charged.

   I mean, remember book club meetings? We sat together to discuss the current book of the month. How did we do these discussions? We put ourselves in the shoes of the characters—what ticks them, why they do this and that, how do they think, and so on. Which in turn helped us unlock or understand the mind of the author. We don't let our own standards and emotions in. We don't look at any of it from an observer's standpoint.

   Where are the people who were capable of deep and meaningful discussions in *cough*MyDramaList*cough* went to? 😁

   #Drama #Kdrama #Cdrama #AsianDrama #TV

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Thursday, 27-Mar-2025 20:46:01 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     • s1m0n4

     @s1m0n4 Ahh! Very good points!

     The "anonymity" online handle gives also made many to forget being mindful. And yes, the "faction" thing and validation.

     *sigh* I guess the others chose to be quiet because of this shift. Probably some online communities just felt it late so they were still able to hold good discussions for a while.

     One more reason to really go back to blogging instead of posting in online communities. 😅

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     s1m0n4 (s1m0n4@ohai.social)'s status on Thursday, 27-Mar-2025 20:46:02 JST s1m0n4

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     @youronlyone I believe this is a general trend not linked exclusively to #drama discussions.
     Exchanges are increasingly polarised by personal sensitivity to certain topics.
     It's more important today to belong to a faction rather than expressing a nuanced POV.
     It may have something to do with the communities being now online. People don't meet as often as they used to do at the public library book club.
     Social approval comes easier through a popular opinion compared to an insightful one.

     #kdrama

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Saturday, 29-Mar-2025 10:39:20 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     • hanktank61

     @s1m0n4 @hanktank61 Haha, true! In forums, it's unli-chars, easier to start an argument. 😅😅

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     s1m0n4 (s1m0n4@ohai.social)'s status on Saturday, 29-Mar-2025 10:39:22 JST s1m0n4

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     @hanktank61 @youronlyone With an instance limiting my toots to 500 chars I don't even think about starting an argument 😂
     Here everyone is respectful and even if we don't agree, we get along!

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     hanktank61 (hanktank61@nerdjoy.social)'s status on Saturday, 29-Mar-2025 10:39:24 JST hanktank61

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     @s1m0n4 @youronlyone
     This space is between old-forum style and chatroom. Or a gentle place were people say "Hi" come for small talk, have a bite or a drink, show a photo and say ¨Bye¨.
     No need for a heated discussion. I volunteer in a public cultural spot, were people come in motivated to see.
     The team itself is very divers, so there can be tension with visitors. Drawing lines how far they can go.
     ( Insulting ¨jokes", trying to start arguments ). Costs energy. No desire to do that here :)

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     s1m0n4 (s1m0n4@ohai.social)'s status on Saturday, 29-Mar-2025 10:39:25 JST s1m0n4

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     @youronlyone
     Yes, most people unfortunately stay quiet. I consider myself a tolerant person when it comes to controversial opinions. As long as they're reasoned and motivated without personally attacking other users, I think every point of view can lead to a constructive and enriching discussion.
     On the other hand I believe blogging to be more like a monologue or a dissertation. It's a very important tool to get thoughts out of one's chest. Not an exchange though.

     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 repeated this.
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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Saturday, 29-Mar-2025 10:48:22 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     • s1m0n4

     @s1m0n4 Yes. I get triggered when they come to your thread and starts attacking either by turning it personal or veering it away from the points while being rude. Like, "if you have nothing better to say, stay off-line". 😅

     But if they're civil, and/or present a valid point or alternative, by all means let's go wild. It's more engaging and enlightening to know different views in a civilized manner than being hostile.

     I love a good discussion especially for fiction. Fiction for me is a safe space to explore things without it getting personal or offensive, because it's clear it's within bounds of the fiction being discussed. But alas, I guess things are changing, or there's just far too many youngsters online these days. 😅