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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:06:07 JST Adrianna Tan

   I was telling someone my superpower is people want to give me food all the time. She said yes, but, the more impressive superpower is that you actually eat all the food they give you. I truly have the mindset that everyone and everything is wonderful and delicious and nothing bad can ever happen.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:09:02 JST Adrianna Tan

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     She said she was too Catholic and would just curl up and wonder what she could possibly have done to deserve anything.

     I guess I.. don’t have that mindset at all. If someone is offering me a cookie, roast chicken, honey, chillies, a job, I usually want it.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:19:39 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I have followed people off trains and into their homes to eat with them in Beirut, Bombay.

     Surprisingly, my gut instinct for stranger danger is actually very finely tuned for an autistic person, and I feel reasonably comfortable with being able to read situations.

     It wasn’t always this way, but connecting with people because I am super interested in how different people live became something of a fixation for me.

     In 20 years of doing it, I feel I’ve gotten the chance to have very rich experiences everywhere I’ve been in the world. I find it difficult to go immediately to threat mode (I am almost never in it).

     I know that’s a function of a privilege I have: I was brought up in a loving and secure environment, and I was rarely (never) afraid. Increasingly I find myself wondering if that was the single most important thing that led to certain outcomes for me, more than anything else.

     Even today, I am deeply afraid of knowing what will happen, but knowing I can always go home, to a warm meal, makes me feel safe. And sometimes I want to try to help others feel that way, as best as I can.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:23:04 JST Adrianna Tan

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     One time I asked an old friend how we met each other. He laughed and said, remember when you were in Chennai in the late 00s? You were sitting on the road eating a huge bucket of chilli chicken, and you were so happy you had the chilli chicken, that I decided I wanted to be your friend.

     Most of my friends are like that.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:27:23 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @kevinriggle same in the TL

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     Kevin Riggle (kevinriggle@ioc.exchange)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:27:24 JST Kevin Riggle

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     @skinnylatte It turns out most people are great, actually. (The world works, I say, because most people want it to work.)

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     Kevin Riggle (kevinriggle@ioc.exchange)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:27:24 JST Kevin Riggle

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     @skinnylatte Honestly every time people were like, how do you live in SoMa, I’m like sure too many of my neighbors live in tents on my sidewalk but we take care of each other

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     Texas Technician (txtechnician@mastodon.social)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:28:23 JST Texas Technician

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     @skinnylatte in my culture, Texan Hispanic, if you go to a BBQ as a stranger. You'll get told to grab food, "have you eaten", "there's food", "lemme Fox you a plate". By 10 ppl on your way to get a soda.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 13:28:23 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @txtechnician yes, being brought up in Asia in that environment was definitely what started me on it. It’s just so natural

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 14:04:33 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • May Likes Toronto

     @mayintoronto @va2lam adding to my list!!

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     May Likes Toronto (mayintoronto@beige.party)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 14:04:35 JST May Likes Toronto

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     @va2lam That was the place! Sooooo good.

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     Patrick Lam :tinoflag: (va2lam@mastodon.nz)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 14:04:36 JST Patrick Lam :tinoflag:

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     • May Likes Toronto

     @mayintoronto @skinnylatte I had a really excellent fish and chips from Bullock's Bistro, was it there?

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     May Likes Toronto (mayintoronto@beige.party)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 14:04:37 JST May Likes Toronto

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     @skinnylatte I had a story like this! It was my second last day in Yellowknife. I was wandering the city by myself and found myself back at the incredible fish and chips place that I absolutely loved.

     I was in heaven with this fish, and the guy next to me hit up a conversation. Then invited me to an impromptu house party with the coolest people I had ever met.

     I don't remember any of it, but that was when I figured it'd be a good place to move if I ever wanted to leave Toronto.

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     D J Capelis (djcapelis@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 14:29:47 JST D J Capelis

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     @skinnylatte Oh interesting. I’ve always felt I’ve been trusting of people generally but now that you mention this I realize how tied into the fact that’s also because I avoid people when my gut says “don’t” on someone.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 14:48:39 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • D J Capelis

     @djcapelis I feel like people on the spectrum tap into different heuristics and signals about people!

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     Victor Zambrano (argonaut@mastodon.social)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 15:26:47 JST Victor Zambrano

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     • Daniel Feldman

     @skinnylatte @dfeldman thought you didn’t like donuts

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 24-Jan-2025 15:26:47 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @argonaut @dfeldman ambivalent about them but if someone gives me one I’ll eat it