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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Dec-2024 16:09:48 JST Adrianna Tan

   I feel like I’ve had the joyous gift of having been often and excessively fed by people I am not related to, happily and warmly, most of my life. Aunties in a village. My Vietnamese neighbors across from me in SF. Literal aunties in Indonesian and Indian trains, stuffing food into my mouth (with their hands. I have photos). Connecting with people different from me through delicious food, and me appreciating it very enthusiastically, is a core part of my sense of self.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Dec-2024 16:15:02 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I’ve followed Lebanese families off a train and into their Beirut apartment for meals they invited me to. I’ve been kidnapped from a taxi in Ranchi so a friend’s parents, who found out I had arrived there, could throw me a 30 dishes for breakfast, breakfast. I’ve lived in the old clay skyscrapers in Sana’a with a local family who fed me saltah and ful for days.

     I send it back into the world by feeding people anywhere and everywhere I can, too.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Dec-2024 16:30:56 JST Adrianna Tan

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     Recently, I got to talking with an older person who also centers food and community like this. He said something interesting. ‘Food is culture, structure, politics, stories. The scaffolding of our lives and what it means to be alive.’

     Sometimes, in the U.S. I feel far removed from that, which I feel I embodied and lived without thought. But I get to be very intentional about it here because I have to recreate my communities, stories and even my own food. I can’t get it here.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Dec-2024 16:34:02 JST Adrianna Tan

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     And that’s why whenever I eat a meal I made from a frozen package, alone, I feel deeply depressed. I never ate that, or like that, until I came here. I also don’t feel good after eating those things, so I’ve now learned to really prioritize what I eat and who I eat with. I get why people eat like this, I just can’t do it.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Dec-2024 16:43:56 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I’m hoping that in 2025, I’ll get to build more circles and friendships, in person and virtually. There will be food (and recipes) involved.

     15 years on, I still make Indian filter coffee a very specific way because my friend’s mum in Kerala taught me so; and chai another way because a friend used to always make it for me that way in Mumbai.

     People and places fade but the stories remain. But if I went to Kerala and Mumbai tomorrow, they’d still make it for me the same way.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Dec-2024 16:45:00 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Sunanda

     @Theorem_Poem so fun!!

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     Sunanda (theorem_poem@mstdn.social)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Dec-2024 16:45:01 JST Sunanda

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     @skinnylatte I am in the "big city" now, but still so grateful to have neighbours who feed us and share their garden produce with us. And if I am happy enough to cook sweets/something special, they *will* get a dabba. Them's the rules. :D

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     HumToTable (humtotable@sfba.social)'s status on Thursday, 12-Dec-2024 00:41:43 JST HumToTable

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     @skinnylatte OK now I just want to cook you dinner! 😄

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 12-Dec-2024 00:41:43 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • HumToTable

     @HumToTable yes please!!

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 12-Dec-2024 00:44:35 JST Adrianna Tan

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     @HumToTable on my list of places to visit after i get my vehicle (soon)

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     HumToTable (humtotable@sfba.social)'s status on Thursday, 12-Dec-2024 00:44:36 JST HumToTable

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     @skinnylatte If you're ever in Humboldt County hit me up!