Adrianna Tan
I went to school with the Asian scions of people like these.
Literally the families mentioned in the crazy Rich Asians book / movie.
For so many of them, the anxiety of ‘not having succeeded on their own’ is extreme. Amuses me that many of them are posting about going to ‘financial therapy’ (for having too much of, and therefore a weird relationship with, money)
https://reasonstobecheerful.world/giving-away-money-is-good-for-you/
Adrianna Tan
I’m very thankful I’m autistic coz I would have never survived in that weird environment otherwise. I never desired their money or their things or status. Mostly I was just very perplexed by it. When I got older I think I found it absurd that teenagers were flying on private jets.
My favorite anecdote is that my boyfriend at 15 years old, his mum asked me ‘what Tan are you? Rubber Tan? Real estate Tan?’ And she was disappointed to find out my parents had.. real jobs
Adrianna Tan
I think when I was more cis and straight passing, I ‘passed’ as one of them but I think if I had taken it too seriously I would never have been accepted anyway. I was the fun pleb girls they date, marriage is a whole other thing. I know so many people who married into that world and Michelle Yeoh’s performance in crazy Rich Asians, while great, doesn’t quite capture the full extent and rejection of being a straggler in old money Asian society.
Adrianna Tan
I always tell Asian Americans that crazy rich Asians isn’t about the dentist uncle you have who has a nice car.
It’s ‘my classmate stayed at the Waldorf-Astoria for her entire 4 years at Columbia’ rich
Adrianna Tan
@farah so they have an Ivy League degree and can go home and inherit the biz as someone with a credential!
Some of them definitely cosplay at being poor when they’re abroad, especially in New York (like with spare rooms they rent to pretend they’re normal people haha)
Mama Ganoush :v_bi:
@skinnylatte Why go to Columbia then?
Adrianna Tan
@mivox I know another person who stayed at a similar hotel in another global city for years while their house was being remodeled. In the suite. Lol. Maybe they can get lots of credit card points /s
mivox is exhausted :ri:
@skinnylatte “my classmate stayed at the…”
*blink*blink* Jesus fuck.
Adrianna Tan
@mivox maybe at that point it’s ’time to buy the hotel’ hahaha
Adrianna Tan
@caity haha, I’m glad they’ve found their thing, but yeah it’s totally removed from the rest of the world like all of their other problems
Wonderdog
@skinnylatte financial therapy? Oh honey, as my Nana would say, if that's your worst problem, you'll have an easy life!
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