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   cjd (cjd@pkteerium.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 22:52:15 JST cjd
   If you're a woman and you want to win at life, your first mission is to land a guy with his career in order, and start a family.
   
   Girlboss is an optional secondary quest.
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 22:52:14 JST lainy

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     @cjd aella is the most brainrot account ever
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     cjd (cjd@pkteerium.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 22:53:16 JST cjd

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     • lainy
     I've never seen it before, I just copied the screenshot from someone else who was commenting on it...
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 22:54:34 JST lainy

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     @cjd her claim to fame is that she is a prostitute who can make charts and graphs
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 22:57:29 JST lainy

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     • Birdulon
     @birdulon @cjd she is very successful in terms on financial success, as are the women she’s talking about. Of course, men don’t care at all about that, so there’s no surprises in her story.
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     Birdulon (birdulon@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 22:57:31 JST Birdulon

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     • lainy
     @lain @cjd is that also her threshold for "very successful"
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:03:41 JST lainy

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     • Birdulon
     @birdulon @cjd here’s an example of her work
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     ロミンちゃん (romin@shitposter.world)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:10:08 JST ロミンちゃん

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     • Birdulon
     @lain @cjd @birdulon
     >Of course, men don’t care at all about that
     poor men do care :l_sure:
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:10:08 JST lainy

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     • ロミンちゃん
     @romin @cjd @birdulon sure, but those are not good partners for a woman
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:12:09 JST lainy

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     • Birdulon
     • ロミンちゃん
     @birdulon @cjd @romin aella knows that women never marry down
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     Birdulon (birdulon@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:12:12 JST Birdulon

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     • ロミンちゃん
     @lain @cjd @romin They could be! But then she specified "an equal" to eliminate any possibilities.
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:13:31 JST lainy

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     @birdulon @cjd @romin I think the women she talks about are managerial or tech people (although successful tech women, being mostly Chinese, don’t have many issues pairing up)
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     Birdulon (birdulon@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:13:32 JST Birdulon

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     • ロミンちゃん
     @lain @cjd @romin in other words "rich (former?) prostitutes shocked to discover their only suitors are gigolos"
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:16:06 JST lainy

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     • ロミンちゃん
     @birdulon @cjd @romin some women have hidden charms
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     Birdulon (birdulon@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:16:07 JST Birdulon

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     • ロミンちゃん
     @lain @cjd @romin must admit my mind immediately goes to attached pic when successful tech women are mentioned
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     Loliphile (mikuphile@gearlandia.haus)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:17:34 JST Loliphile

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     • Birdulon
     @lain @cjd @birdulon
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     Birdulon (birdulon@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Oct-2024 23:17:58 JST Birdulon

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     @lain @cjd @romin I'd say the only ones that don't are the ones that went and revealed them all
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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 00:13:20 JST kaia

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     • Birdulon
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     @lain @cjd @romin @birdulon
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 00:15:14 JST lainy

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     @kaia @cjd @romin @birdulon
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 00:25:41 JST lainy

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     • Ademan
     @ademan @cjd @birdulon maybe they were nervous or gay
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     Ademan (ademan@shitposter.world)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 00:25:42 JST Ademan

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     • Birdulon
     @lain @cjd @birdulon
     
     Imagine being so stinky (aella) that >50% of the dudes there couldn't get off with you.
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     Ademan (ademan@shitposter.world)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 00:29:57 JST Ademan

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     • Birdulon
     @lain @cjd @birdulon Could be, but I'm sticking to my theory
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     lainy (lain@lain.com)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 00:30:05 JST lainy

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     @ademan @cjd @birdulon loool
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     cjd (cjd@pkteerium.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 01:19:16 JST cjd

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     • hermlon
     Don't take my word for it, don't take ANYONE's word for it. There is so much terrible advice out there that you shouldn't trust anyone.
     
     What you need to be asking yourself is:
     1. How many years do you need to put in before you hit career paydirt?
     2. How much time do you have before the kind of husband you want is not going to be interested?
     3. How many kids do you want be able to have? -> By 35, the door starts closing on having kids.
     
     Sorry to lay this on you, these are uncomfortable questions. But there are so many women out there who just refuse to address these topics and they end up 40 year old cat ladies ranting on twitter about how their life is an absolute living nightmare.
     
     You Must Plan.
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     hermlon (hermlon@yuustan.space)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 01:19:18 JST hermlon

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     @cjd hey, look at what i found, might be interesting to hear another perspective: aella.substack.com/p/how-to-be-respected-as-a-teen-girl
     
     (btw, I do think the concept of marrying up- or downwards is stupid. i just think your take is stupid as well, that's why i commented)

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     hermlon (hermlon@yuustan.space)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 01:19:19 JST hermlon

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     @cjd oh fuck, i didn't know!! gotta drop out of university rn. how do i find that guy that can get me pregnant?

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     opal (wowaname@freesoftwareextremist.com)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 02:00:10 JST opal

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     @cjd
     >get used to using [ChatGPT], because you'll be using it a LOT.
     yeah @OneEyeKing dont listen to this fgt, read docs for everything you use. that's what developers and engineers have been doing for years. reading docs. not talking to a toy.
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     cjd (cjd@pkteerium.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 02:00:11 JST cjd

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     Oh boy, my advice is not going to be that good because I learned like almost 20 years ago.
     
     So to get into software, you have to be a fastidious motherfucker. You do NOT need to be a math genius, that's a meme. But you do need to be perfectionist and also pretty damn stubborn.
     
     First thing I'd do is ditch windows and install linux. It's such a pain in the ass to use, you naturally start learning how it works just to make it work. Install linux and then put up a poster on your wall with linux shell commands, you'll need this later.
     
     Then decide if you're going to be frontend or backend, I'm 100% backend, if you're artsy, do frontend. If you think like a plumber, do backend.
     
     A lot of software is plumbing. You have the data you need in the database, but you need it in the application, so you need to write code that pulls it out of the db, but that code needs to be in the db module, which then the application module talks to the db module using an API, then you need to define the API for pulling that data out. It's all like plumbing or running wires.
     
     If that paragraph made no sense, ask ChatGPT to ELI5 it. When it gives you a stupid answer, demand clarification. This process actually works, and get used to using it, because you'll be using it a LOT.
     
     Then pick a language that's not going to wreck you day 1, if you're doing backend, I'd pick Golang. If you're doing frontend I'd pick ReactJS with Typescript.
     
     There are a billion people out there who are going to tell you that you should learn some fringe language like Zig or Julia or OCaml. Ignore them. I myself write almost exclusively in Rust, but I do NOT recommend it to a beginner. Rust is like the 18 wheeler of programming languages. It's incredibly capable, but it's almost the worst thing to try to learn on.
     
     Now you need to setup an environment. That means installing all of the programs you need on your computer to be able to start coding. I strongly recommend installing Visual Studio Code. You'll need to also install the golang compiler, or if you're doing frontend, install whatever stuff you need to get ReactJS going.
     
     There are a billion people out there who are going to tell you that you need to use some text based editor like Vim or Emacs. Ignore ALL of them, use Visual Studio Code. You can switch to an "elite" editor LATER.
     
     With this, plus a bunch of question/answer from ChatGPT, you should get to the point where you can type out a hello world program in golang, compile it, and run it.
     
     Congratulations, you completed step 1.
     
     At this point, you need to build up your skills, there's a number of online puzzle websites where you can get puzzles to complete by writing code. Leetcode comes to mind as an example.
     
     You can also write some little programs to help you out in your life. If you have something that's slow and annoying, try automating it.
     
     There's one other thing you'll have to learn at the same time and that's git. Make a github account and start making repositories for random stuff you build and uploading them to git. Make sure you clearly document everything with a good readme.md file.
     
     Once you've put in 500-1000 hours doing little projects, you can start looking for some open source projects to contribute to. If you're aiming for a job, you want to find a project which has corporate backing.
     
     When you come in, first thing you do is sweep the floor. Everybody loves function documentation comments that help explain what a function does. If there are uncommented functions, you can often add comments explaining them and your pull requests will get accepted.
     
     Another thing everyone loves is tests, typically if you contribute tests they will be accepted. But if you're going to really meaningfully contribute to the project, you need to actually use it in some way, so that you can understand the project's needs. So if you're contributing to a blogging platform (for instance) well, time to make a blog.
     
     Go buy a 1$/month VPS online and buy a domain name and figure out how to setup a server and host your blog - or host whatever software you're contributing to...
     
     Remember, ChatGPT is your friend. One way or another, you're going to end up learning databases, linux system admin, webservers, and so on. Everything is so interconnected you really can't ignore any of it.
     
     If you succeed in all of this, and maybe do a "boot camp" course, you could even get hired. Open source contributions are a really good way to "bang on the door" of a place where you want to work.
     
     Maybe others of my followers have more thoughts, but that's all I've got.
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     OneEyeKing (oneeyeking@noauthority.social)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 02:00:12 JST OneEyeKing

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     @cjd How do you start in software?

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     cjd (cjd@pkteerium.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 06-Oct-2024 02:00:13 JST cjd

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     There's also a strategy for young men: If you're a young man and you want to win at life, your first mission is to get to career pay dirt AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE.
     
     University is a scam, they suck you in for 4-8 years and when you get out, you're still making bupkis.
     
     Trades are reliable, you get in, get out, and you're making money. But trades have an upper limit on what you can make unless you start a company.
     
     Historically software has been a gold mine. Whatever you're doing, DO THAT. No fooling around, partying, spending time and money on girls you have no chance of marrying.
     
     Then once you've struck oil, then you settle down with a girl who is playing her optimum game, and you start your family.