myrmepropagandist
This video is remarkable. It's so easy to second-guess the choices of parents with perfect hindsight and limited information. But, I can't help but sense a rejection of help for this young man. A rejection of what's "for snowflakes" -- not a therapist, not discussing feelings. He bought his son an AR.
Children try to be who we tell them to be. They try SO HARD. Who are you telling your chid to be when you buy them a weapon of war?
Artemis
@futurebird
How many cries for help does a child have to make? What do you want to bet that instead of a conversation, instead of trying to get to the bottom of what's going on, the minute those cops left, his dad gave him a beating and considered the matter closed?
myrmepropagandist
It could have been that, or just yelling or who knows. Something was going very wrong and not being addressed and this guy pours gasoline on it and makes it everyone's problem.
Why would he buy a child in that state a gun? I'm floored.
myrmepropagandist
I've said this before but there is nothing normal about bullying. Nothing normal or acceptable about a child being bullied, or being a bully. (sometimes I've found the child who is described as "bullied" is, in fact, a bully themselves... bullies can be very socially isolated)
I've had tough guy parents roll their eyes about my concern for the social well being of my students thinking I'm being unreasonable in expecting a school to be a SAFE SPACE.
myrmepropagandist
It's fine to give a child strategies for dealing with bullies better. But, if it's really bullying* it's not the child's responsibility to solve the problem.
*Bullying is about rejecting a member of a community as an equal and denying them the respect that others can count on and expect.
Queen of New York
@futurebird There are sadly too many who view bullying as just how people interact and maintain social structures. They’re fine with telling kids to stand up to bullies, because blaming the victim is easier than understanding all the issues at play and addressing things like physical and mental abuse at home, income inequality, neurodiversity, etc, in a productive and healthy way. Way too much work. /depressed sigh/
myrmepropagandist
I'm still mad that some think "safe space" is a concept worthy of mocking. Not being able to make your spaces safe is just a sign of disorganization, not enough resources and carelessness. It's not "tough" ... everyone *needs* to feel safe. It's a basic human need. How is this something we have to explain?
GNU social JP is a social network, courtesy of GNU social JP管理人. It runs on GNU social, version 2.0.2-dev, available under the GNU Affero General Public License.
All GNU social JP content and data are available under the Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 license.