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   goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Sunday, 18-Aug-2024 23:00:45 JST goatsarah

   Menopausal cis women be like: “I know I could feel like I’m 30 again, but I think I’m gonna try feeling shit for a few years” 🤔

   Trans women: “Why are you doing this to yourselves? Behold our lord and saviour, HRT!”

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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Sunday, 18-Aug-2024 23:16:42 JST goatsarah

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     • Bethan M. Jenkins
     @gwenynen this concept of “allowed” may be a key difference, as most of us in the trans camp long ago blew past the “fuck you, I won’t do what you tell me” barrier.
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     Bethan M. Jenkins (gwenynen@toot.wales)'s status on Sunday, 18-Aug-2024 23:16:44 JST Bethan M. Jenkins

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     @goatsarah (in my case it will probably be me not being allowed it because of my embolim history ☹️)

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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Sunday, 18-Aug-2024 23:48:26 JST goatsarah

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     • anubis2814

     @anubis2814 They have quite the habit of denying it to us as well.

     We just learn to give no fucks.

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     anubis2814 (anubis2814@friendica.myportal.social)'s status on Sunday, 18-Aug-2024 23:48:27 JST anubis2814

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     @goatsarah Yeah my partner isn't allowed HRT because of her migraines. Doctors are WAY more likely to deny it to cis women who want it.
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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 00:41:33 JST goatsarah

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     • ajlanes
     @ajlanes @anubis2814 Quite. Just need more of that, "I wasn't actually asking your permission" energy.
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     ajlanes (ajlanes@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 00:41:34 JST ajlanes

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     • anubis2814
     @anubis2814 @goatsarah Well, to be fair they usually try denying it to us as well but we seem to be more determined to get it anyway.
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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 00:46:33 JST goatsarah

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     • Bethan M. Jenkins
     @gwenynen Fair enough. It's a consideration.
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     Bethan M. Jenkins (gwenynen@toot.wales)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 00:46:34 JST Bethan M. Jenkins

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     @goatsarah true. Though I think it's a reasonable supposition that oestrogen is going to be a clot trigger for me, and I'm not sure risking a third episode is a particularly wise choice 😬

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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 00:56:35 JST goatsarah

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     • ajlanes

     @anubis2814 @ajlanes No. Not really. We have been in a near century long war of attrition with the medical community and their habit of trying to utterly control every aspect of our lives.

     It is entirely normal to go to a doctor and tell them you are taking HRT, and maybe they can take you on as a patient as harm reduction (and frequently they still say no), because otherwise they won't give us shit.

     The fact that they give us anything at all is because if they don't, we end up presenting an even bigger problem for them down the line, and even that usually doesn't stop them. Most of them regard transition as the absolute worst outcome and try to prevent it at all costs.

     Anyone who thinks they treat us with any kind of privilege isn't paying attention.

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     anubis2814 (anubis2814@friendica.myportal.social)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 00:56:36 JST anubis2814

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     • ajlanes
     @goatsarah @ajlanes They also often still view you as men so transphobia works in your favor for once.
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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 00:59:31 JST goatsarah

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     • ajlanes

     @ajlanes @anubis2814 And honestly, the best outcome we can hope for long term is to get a GP who doesn't know us, has never seen us, and just signs off on an HRT repeat every month without knowing why, because "tickybox".

     And still, just buy several months' grey market pills as a backup because you never know when they're gonna resort to fuckery.

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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 07:57:43 JST goatsarah

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     • ajlanes

     @anubis2814 @ajlanes you’re being cissexist here. Doctors do not treat trans women as men. They treat us as even less competent women.

     Consider fucking off.

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     anubis2814 (anubis2814@friendica.myportal.social)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 07:57:44 JST anubis2814

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     • ajlanes
     @goatsarah @ajlanes Or you aren't paying attention to medical sexism. This whole post is pretty insulting to basically all cis women. Trans folks have it rough, the most abused and bullied people on the planet, but don't belittle another marginalized group as a joke, when doctors literally haven't taken them seriously since the beginning of the field and treat them like second class citizens with no autonomy over their bodies.