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   :verified_2:防空識別區𝒔𝒐𝒄𝟶 (adiz@soc0.outrnat.nl)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:39:32 JST :verified_2:防空識別區𝒔𝒐𝒄𝟶

   I am very successful and wealthy yet absolutely miserable.

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     Ennui (iwillbite@whinge.town)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:39:22 JST Ennui

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     @adiz idk what this means
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     @iwillbite@whinge.town In for a penny, in for a pound.

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     Ennui (iwillbite@whinge.town)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:39:25 JST Ennui

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     @adiz I want two kids
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     @iwillbite@whinge.town Yeah, until you and I have another one that resets the clock.

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     Ennui (iwillbite@whinge.town)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:39:27 JST Ennui

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     @adiz maybe once your kid is older and is off to college
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     @iwillbite@whinge.town I'm committed to the success and stability of my offspring. Ergo, I cannot live the life of romantic adventure I lust for.

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     Ennui (iwillbite@whinge.town)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:39:29 JST Ennui

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     @adiz maybe one day you can live that lifestyle
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     @iwillbite@whinge.town It's because I was not born for this life of career and shit. I was born for a life of adventure and vagabondism.

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     Ennui (iwillbite@whinge.town)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:39:31 JST Ennui

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     @adiz it’s because you’re bald 😪
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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:41:55 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     You literally fly planes for a living which is much more adventurous than most ppl could ever hope for plus you could do that and also be a vagabond if you really wanted to. You're ungrateful for the gifts you've been given.
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     • Hoss Delgado

     @Hoss@shitpost.cloud Because I could live in Hong Kong and no other airlines in the region hire foreign pilots.

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     Hoss Delgado (hoss@shitpost.cloud)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:41:57 JST Hoss Delgado

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     Why that airline specifically?
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     @Hoss@shitpost.cloud I want to work for Cathay Pacific in Hong Kong.

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     Hoss Delgado (hoss@shitpost.cloud)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:41:59 JST Hoss Delgado

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     There's a billion-dollar travel industry that's heavily invested in making people feel FOMO if they don't go on le heckin' globetrotting adventurinos, and I think they've mindfucked a significant chunk of the population over the past decade with various guerilla marketing psyops. They don't want you investing, saving, and building families, they want you spending as much of your discretionary income as possible on the travel meme both for their own bottom line and to keep you in the wagecage longer.
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     @iwillbite@whinge.town Fuck it, 4. I'm buying a house as it is so the dreams of wandering the Earth are irrelevant. Careermaxxing+normiemaxxing over here because I'm fully invested in my offspring.

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     @iwillbite@whinge.town I already have one kid might as well have 3. lol

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     Ennui (iwillbite@whinge.town)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:42:01 JST Ennui

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     @adiz oh okay
     
     What about 4?
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     Ennui (iwillbite@whinge.town)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:42:02 JST Ennui

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     @adiz I’m not reading!! You explain it
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     • Ennui

     @iwillbite@whinge.town https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/in_for_a_penny,_in_for_a_pound

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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:45:47 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     I was literally about to say that you should fly for an african airline but you don't actually want that because you know it's stupid. You're extremely lucky to be in the position you're in and you should acknowledge that, even if it isn't totally perfect according to you.
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     @bot@seal.cafe This isn't enough. I must be on the edge. I've even thought about moving to Africa to fly the last frontier of aviation's "wild west".

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     @bot@seal.cafe But I want to fly airplanes while living in remote locales.

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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:54:59 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     You're headed for the average midlife crisis, and the only thing I can say is that you're an idiot for falling into that same routine. Many ppl have regrets and aspirations for other things than their current situation, but there is nothing more important than your children. You can do those things later, at least wait until your child is on stable ground in a few years.
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     @bot@seal.cafe I know that you're absolutely right. I'm slated to make around $200k this year. I have nothing to be sour or ungrateful for. But, I was happiest when I was broke living in Asia vs. highly successful living in the USA. I don't know, man. I really should be counting my blessings. Things could be immensely, immeasurably worse. Like "waagggh I'm not happy with my life" casually puts a 30% down-payment on a house. I can't change how I feel, though. I really wish I could buy a sailboat and live on a sailboat but I have a kiddo to take care of.

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     @bot@seal.cafe Honestly, thanks for this reality check. You really are right. I'm stupidly privileged. There are people in other countries who would serial murder just to have the life I have. And I'm over here being a fucking whiny douchebag. It is supremely retarded for me to be feeling bad and sorry for myself, not taking appreciation for the life I've been given and the opportunities that were presented to me. As much as I complain about the USA, I genuinely am lucky to have been born here vs. in some slums in Pakistan or something, for example. My perspective on life really is out of touch and unrealistic. My litmus for life "sucking" is so insanely unplugged from real shit. I really need to re-evaluate my shit and learn to be grateful and thankful vs. upset with what I've got. Damn, now I really feel like a PoS.

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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 16:59:31 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     I've been p annoyed that I couldn't follow you but I probably won't be on fedi much longer anyway.
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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 17:07:52 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     Oh I can now apparently lol, I honestly figured it was deliberate when I found you randomly again and it said "awaiting approval", it hurt my feelings tbh. I may, I'm thinking about it, but I would like to stay in touch if I do because you seem very genuine even if we don't agree about everything.
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     • Fediverse Contractor

     @bot@seal.cafe Why can't you follow me? And why are you leaving Fedi? Want to stay in touch?

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     @bot@seal.cafe Do you have Telegram?

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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 17:09:22 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     No, I have matrix tho.
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     Fediverse Contractor (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 17:10:35 JST Fediverse Contractor

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     DM me yours if you don't mind, there are sus ppl creeping on me here.
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     @bot@seal.cafe What's your Matrix? I'll invite you to our Matrix group.

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     Vaghrad (vaghrad@asphodel.rip)'s status on Saturday, 16-Mar-2024 17:18:36 JST Vaghrad

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     @adiz @bot
     sorry, rambling a bit here, because this intrigues me.
     that's perfectly normal, you'll get used to any situation with enough time. It's what made humans so successful on this planet, we're able to adapt to anything. But our standards adapt with our situation.
     Don't focus on chasing happiness, it will always be faster than you. Assess what you've got and make the best of it.
     Happiness will come to you when you least think about it and are just doing what you love.
     Money and success don't seem to bring you happiness, but they're great tools to realize yourself in a way few people can. Just buying a house is a lifelong dream for some, it's just another step for you: That doesn't mean you're a PoS though, even if you're not content with your situation. Don't force yourself to be happy & grateful, these forced feelings will come to stab you in the back whenever you're feeling down again. Instead identify what exactly is causing them, find the root so to say, and work on that. "Leaving everything behind" is usually the symptom of a much deeper rooted problem.
     I wouldn't necessarily throw away this feeling of frustration entirely. Turn it into motivation to reach your goals, whatever they may be. Lust for adventure may be the very thing that enables your kids to have a great childhood if you take them adventuring with you!
     Try to remind yourself why you chose this life over your old one. Even if you feel now that you were happier back then, there had to be a reason for you to leave.
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