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   nixCraft 🐧 (nixcraft@mastodon.social)'s status on Friday, 05-Jan-2024 23:28:38 JST nixCraft 🐧

   😜 AI is going to ruin everything.

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     ARCANON☑ (arcanon@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 18:58:17 JST ARCANON☑

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     @nixCraft its almost like you should just go up to people and talk to them at a concert or whatever. Have friends with you so you don’t look like a creep.

     edit: also, don't BE a creep...

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     Jess👾 (jesstheunstill@infosec.exchange)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 18:58:17 JST Jess👾

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     • ARCANON☑

     Guess all of us who still give a shit about COVID and don't like talking to strangers are just SOL then.

     Dating apps are just fine. AI is far less of a danger to me then cis men who want to scam/stalk/murder me anyways ...

     @ARCANON @nixCraft

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     nixCraft 🐧 (nixcraft@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 18:58:18 JST nixCraft 🐧

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     Also, dating is going to be interesting now. You want to avoid catfishing. You can't trust videos or pictures or texts. The only way to be sure is to meet the person in a cafe you choose now.

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     Jess👾 (jesstheunstill@infosec.exchange)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 18:59:02 JST Jess👾

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     • ARCANON☑

     No, I mean the standard progression of things in online dating.

     Using an app to get virtually introduced to other people who look interesting, getting to know them via messaging, talking on the phone/video a few times, then meeting in public places until we both feel comfortable being together in private.

     A complete stranger coming up to me while I'm out running errands or at the gym or at the bookstore or just trying to enjoy a concert is going to be an absolute hard NO. I don't care how hot they are, how good their pickup lines are, what crowd of friends they have with them.

     Maybe some girls will like that sort of thing, but that is just NOT the way I am comfortable meeting people and getting to know them. Either we've met as strangers online and become not strangers virtually first, or we are introduced to one another via a mutual connection or friend, and thus aren't complete strangers. Those are the two pathways I allow.

     @nanoelquant @ARCANON @nixCraft

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     Gold gab ich für Eisen (nanoelquant@c.im)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 18:59:03 JST Gold gab ich für Eisen

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     • ARCANON☑

     @JessTheUnstill @ARCANON @nixCraft do you mean like never going offline?

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     Jess👾 (jesstheunstill@infosec.exchange)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 19:00:07 JST Jess👾

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     • ARCANON☑

     Men demand access to women anywhere, anytime, and anyplace.

     They see it as their RIGHT as men to be able to demand her time, attention, and respect.

     The notion that a woman they are attracted to should be allowed to exist without dealing with their advances is viewed as an affront to their manhood.

     After all, it is her obligation as an attractive woman to give every guy who gets a boner at her the time of day. If she didn't want to deal with their advances, she shouldn't have existed in public and looked attractive.

     It's why I'm still convinced the Block button is the biggest advance in Feminism in the last 25 years. For the first time, women can exist and socialize in public mixed gender spaces, and even if a man wants her attention, she can say No, and actually enforce the boundaries without any risk to her safety.

     EDIT: And no, I'm not going to give y'all any "not all men" cover here. Try that one on me, and my block list will gain another line.

     @foolishowl @nanoelquant @ARCANON @nixCraft

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     FoolishOwl (foolishowl@social.coop)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 19:00:08 JST FoolishOwl

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     • Jess👾
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     • ARCANON☑

     @JessTheUnstill @nanoelquant @ARCANON @nixCraft One of my worst experiences on Twitter was when someone argued against dating apps and said that if you wanted to hook up with people, you should go to the grocery store and hit on people there. I said that was inappropriate and people (particularly women) just want to get groceries without being harassed.

     I got thousands of responses, complaining what a sick sad prude I was. A lot claiming they started relationships that way.

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     Gold gab ich für Eisen (nanoelquant@c.im)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 19:00:09 JST Gold gab ich für Eisen

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     • ARCANON☑

     @JessTheUnstill @ARCANON @nixCraft well, hope you will succeed.

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     Jess👾 (jesstheunstill@infosec.exchange)'s status on Monday, 08-Jan-2024 19:00:09 JST Jess👾

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     • ARCANON☑

     Already did.

     Twice.

     I'm not asking for help, I'm telling guys that there's a lot of awesome women out here that absolutely do NOT want to be picked up at a concert. In fact, in your attempt to pick her up, you've probably made the experience more uncomfortable and less safe because she can't enjoy simply existing in public without having to fend off advances from strangers.

     @nanoelquant @ARCANON @nixCraft