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   Girl on the Net (girlonthenet@mastodon.social)'s status on Sunday, 17-Dec-2023 01:27:22 JST Girl on the Net

   I'm no #polyamory expert but ... "we fuck other people to keep each other on our toes" doesn't seem like the healthiest way to conduct a relationship.

   https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/dec/16/this-is-how-we-do-it-we-both-sleep-with-other-people-it-keeps-us-on-our-toes?utm_source=press.coop

   Bonus eyeroll points for including this bullshit: "I think it’s a little selfish to expect one person to fulfil all your needs, until one or other of you dies."

   (Monogamy doesn't expect that either - it's why we have *friends*! https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/argument-for-nonmonogamy/)

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     🏳️‍⚧️ Dream Warrior 🏳️‍⚧️ (cyan@corteximplant.com)'s status on Sunday, 17-Dec-2023 01:28:30 JST 🏳️‍⚧️ Dream Warrior 🏳️‍⚧️

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     @girlonthenet it’s a common topic in poly circles. You can get insecure about yourself and what you offer when your partners could have anyone else. So many other options! Are you going to deliver? What happens if you don’t and other partners are ~better~?

     That’s more of a personal insecurity and it shows easily under a poly prism.

     For the “one person” line, alas, people don’t look kindly to fucking your friends. It tends it be used as a shorthand for “not one person can fulfill your emotional, financial, spiritual, personal and sexual desires “.
     Article doesn’t strike me as super out of place, even if hierarchical polyamory is not my personal flavor. Creates a whole lot of problem I would rather not deal with!

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