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I believe I am the greatest psychoanalyst since Nietzsche and maybe better than him too
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@dicey @MercurialBuilding It's genetic in the sense that every human has one yeah
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@dicey @MercurialBuilding Not sure how it would even be possible to know that, since we'd have to ask little children about it
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@hidden @MercurialBuilding is it genetic?
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@MercurialBuilding The ego acts as a filter between the world and your conscious mind, and your subconscious and conscious mind. It's basically like a lens through which you view things. Its constructive in the sense that you build it with ideas (generally subconsciously), although it can be disassembled as well, i.e. it contains things like your identity and values and overall fixed idea of your worldview. For most people it acts as a sort of series of defense mechanisms to keep troublesome issues out of their active awareness. For example if you have a shitty boss you might deploy the ego while you're in the office to suppress your resent at him, and then let your resent out after work. (This is a benign example of the ego being fluidly deployed to get through the day.) An unhealthy example would be something like suppressing an insecurity which ends up later controlling your behaviour without you being actively aware of it. Or only being able to relate to someone in conversation by comparing their experiences to yours.
People with large egos are generally self centred because they have an overly particular lens through which they judge and experience the world. People with small egos are generally more fluid and empathetic because they can judge and experience the world with less prejudice.
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@hidden @MercurialBuilding when does the ego develop?
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@hidden I'm going to kill myself people keep using terms I think of as synonymous as if they contradict each other
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@hidden I think your ego is too big
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@MercurialBuilding I'm highly arrogant but I have a small and fluid ego
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@hidden @MercurialBuilding @dicey I'd say the point where a human starts to develop a sense of identity beyond simple rejection. Kids learn "no" as a way to differentiate themselves and their likes from dislikes before they learn to express desires and preferences in nuanced ways.
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@hidden @MercurialBuilding @dicey To add on to this, a toddler may say "I don't like apples" even if apples are their favorite food. This is primitive expression of the ego, as they're expressing their existence [I], differentiation [don't like], and it's primitive because they latch on to something they know but feel safe rejecting. They know that they can say that about apples without consequences. Two of my kids went through a phase like this with foods they loved and a year or two later were back to loving.
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@BowsacNoodle @MercurialBuilding @dicey Yeah that sounds about right
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@BowsacNoodle @MercurialBuilding @dicey Ah yes I did this constantly as a child
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@hidden @MercurialBuilding @dicey Yeah me too. I wish my dad would've taken me aside around 8 years old and said something to me. My kids have already gotten the lesson and I'll occasionally remind them if they complain:
>It's not enough to be a critic. Simply "not liking things" isn't a useful personality trait and it repels the kind of people you'll want to be around.
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