That's a tough question. The things I might want to change would fundamentally change who I am. So much could have been better in so many ways. For example, if I *could* tell young Janet "You're trans, accept that now", then I would almost certainly never have met Barbara. And yeah losing her was traumatic, but the time I had with her was so beautiful.
No, I don't think I'd have ended up in the same place. No, I wouldn't change anything.
I love me. That made me, me.