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   Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:21:13 JST Falcon Darkstar

   You do not get to shut down valid criticism of your work and actions just by virtue of being a member of a minority. I can't believe how often this comes up even still.

   Obviously if one is targeted, that's a problem, but please look up and understand disparate treatment and disparate impact. These concepts are /comparative/. Between marginalized and non-marginalized groups.

   Also fwiw my own experience is that I feel most safe when my work gets the same type of feedback others' does.

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     Sexy Moon (moon@shitposter.club)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:21:10 JST Sexy Moon

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     @falcon diversity means difference and differences aren't always positive or at least not always enjoyable, so to some extent it really does incorporate some sacrifice by being tolerant of things we don't like. it's impossible to draw an objective line of what you should and shouldn't tolerate though.
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     Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:21:11 JST Falcon Darkstar

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     It isn't the point of diversity to accept worse results as some kind of sacrifice in the name of fighting past wrongs (and sacrifices don't right wrongs anyway).

     Diversity means we play to everyone's strengths and incorporate viewpoints and needs different from our own; by doing that, we achieve more than a homogeneous group could. By including and empowering everyone, we get the benefit of everyone's contribution.

     It's not about comparing oppression or letting people take revenge.

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     Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:21:12 JST Falcon Darkstar

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     What this means is, I expect, if I fuck up, to be told. And if I hear valid criticism of my work, do you think I will say, oh you just hate queer people? Oh, you're targeting me out of ableism?

     No, I will do my best to listen and do better, and I don't know a lot of successful people who do otherwise.

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     Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:21:13 JST Falcon Darkstar

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     That is to say, I feel most safe when my work receives the same level and type of feedback and notice as that of the straight, neurotypical dude next to me with his normal circadian rhythm. The kind of guy I have had to work harder than, get more credentials than, negotiate harder than, and sometimes work around the feelings of.

     Being seen as a peer is ideal. Being seen as a pet - shielded, given a lower bar to meet - is absolutely not.

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     Falcon Darkstar (falcon@mastodon.falconk.rocks)'s status on Tuesday, 17-Oct-2023 20:43:22 JST Falcon Darkstar

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     @Moon sure, and diversity means foregoing the convenience of one's comfortable prejudices and the simplicity of working with people who are just like you, and the doing of a lot of effort. These are sacrifices but I think what I am trying to get at is that it doesn't involve sacrificing outcomes. In fact the outcomes should be better.

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