That is to say, I feel most safe when my work receives the same level and type of feedback and notice as that of the straight, neurotypical dude next to me with his normal circadian rhythm. The kind of guy I have had to work harder than, get more credentials than, negotiate harder than, and sometimes work around the feelings of.
Being seen as a peer is ideal. Being seen as a pet - shielded, given a lower bar to meet - is absolutely not.