I think the reason it’s “cringe” to be vulnerable, or to pursue people for friendship, or to ask to be heard is because *all* of us are lonely on a profound level (spoiler alert, it’s capitalism again!) but most of us are still too embarrassed by that fact to proactively address it. Especially via our most ubiquitous form of socializing (psychologically isolating digital platforms). Let’s all just have a low key weekly mixer and be nice. 🤷
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Ryan 🐙 (ryanhoulihan@mastodon.social)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Oct-2023 07:15:29 JST Ryan 🐙
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DryBird227 (drybird227@mastodon.social)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Oct-2023 07:29:46 JST DryBird227
@ryanhoulihan There's another reason. Rejection. There are a lot of people out there who use rejection as a means to style their ingroup. To gather a group of people so they can use them to attack others.
And it happens so much vulnerability is made out to be stupid. Like a bad move all around.
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DryBird227 (drybird227@mastodon.social)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Oct-2023 07:34:44 JST DryBird227
@ryanhoulihan Sorry about any trauma you went through. But yeah. High school never ends. And when it comes to the debate bros who grew up thinking it's possible to win or lose a debate. Vulnerability became a no no. Not just regarding toxic masculinity. But in the realm of DESTROYED WITH FACTS AND LOGIC.
The new popularity contest. This time. You get your own little mob of hateful people online with it.
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Patrick (patrickoftheg@mastodon.social)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Oct-2023 07:41:07 JST Patrick
@ryanhoulihan What kills me is that, end of day, I am so tired, and I have so very little free time to do what I want, that friendships have become *obligations* and I resent doing the right thing - aka meeting people half way and doing things they like, because I am a decent person and that's the right thing to do.
It also makes me just want to avoid having to do that at all, making that kind of choice. So it's just better not to have many good friends?
That sounds fucked.
I hate this all.
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LaPenguin (extrapenguin@aus.social)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Oct-2023 08:18:37 JST LaPenguin
@quadrivial @ryanhoulihan
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quadrivial (quadrivial@beige.party)'s status on Wednesday, 11-Oct-2023 08:18:38 JST quadrivial
@ryanhoulihan A low key weekly mixer sounds lovely tbh. (And I agree with your take 1000%.)
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cury (rcury@mastodon.social)'s status on Sunday, 15-Oct-2023 05:38:34 JST cury
I don’t get how this is relates to capitalism
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