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   Hazelnoot (hazel@mastodon.koehlercode.dev)'s status on Thursday, 05-Oct-2023 06:31:51 JST Hazelnoot

   :heart_trans: :heart_trans: :heart_trans:

   Source is brooke2valley on Tumblr.

   #Trans #TransGender #Queer #Comic

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     Kit Rhett Aultman (roadriverrail@signs.codes)'s status on Thursday, 05-Oct-2023 06:31:49 JST Kit Rhett Aultman

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     @hazel There's an irony in that, as I've adopted a more femme presentation, I do actually see my mom's features in me more. And she was the only woman in the family when I was growing up, which I know she found isolating. And I want to much to tell her how much of her in me I see now and how much we could share. But...she's a transphobe, and out of filial peity, I continue to perform for her the son she would prefer.

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     Kit Rhett Aultman (roadriverrail@signs.codes)'s status on Thursday, 05-Oct-2023 08:54:54 JST Kit Rhett Aultman

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     @hazel family respect isn't the only reason

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     Hazelnoot (hazel@mastodon.koehlercode.dev)'s status on Thursday, 05-Oct-2023 08:54:55 JST Hazelnoot

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     • Kit Rhett Aultman

     @roadriverrail I'm sorry, that's a tough situation. :people_hugging:

     I understand why you'd want to hide that from her. But if family respect is the only reason, then I'd encourage you to reconsider. You're pretending to be someone that you're not, for the sake of someone who doesn't even know the real you. That can't be maintained forever, and the longer you wait, the harder it will be when you finally have to share the truth.

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     Kit Rhett Aultman (roadriverrail@signs.codes)'s status on Thursday, 05-Oct-2023 09:11:21 JST Kit Rhett Aultman

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     @hazel it's not like I'd be facing homelessness, but it is more complicated than simple respect. It's okay. I don't mind the detante of shibboleths and performed filial piety; part of the original reply was to show what my family loses by not wanting to know me.

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     Hazelnoot (hazel@mastodon.koehlercode.dev)'s status on Thursday, 05-Oct-2023 09:11:23 JST Hazelnoot

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     • Kit Rhett Aultman

     @roadriverrail ah ok. I'm sorry that you can't be safely out to your family, that's a crappy situation.