@roadriverrail I'm sorry, that's a tough situation. :people_hugging:
I understand why you'd want to hide that from her. But if family respect is the only reason, then I'd encourage you to reconsider. You're pretending to be someone that you're not, for the sake of someone who doesn't even know the real you. That can't be maintained forever, and the longer you wait, the harder it will be when you finally have to share the truth.