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   御Nightingalle (nightingalle@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:26:44 JST 御Nightingalle
   I’m deeply saddened by the fact that some Japanese girls think that going to a gyudon or ramen place alone is hazukashii
   
   a bit pathetic
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     Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:27:45 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

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     @Nightingalle I could understand for restaurants but isn't it quite usual for people (just men maybe?) to go alone at ramen places?
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     Ytrezar (ytrezar@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:28:40 JST Ytrezar

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     @Nightingalle Japan is a place where there is a lot of unspoken rules...
     I've been reading a lot of light novel and it always surprise me how they sure take it hard for nothing...

     Well I guess it's part of the charm

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     御Nightingalle (nightingalle@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:28:41 JST 御Nightingalle

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     @Ytrezar if it’s a general culture thing in Japan to feel embarrassed eating alone then I can completely understand, it’s the part that only girls who feel reserved about it, worried that it might not seem “cute” or “feminine” enough that troubles me
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     Ytrezar (ytrezar@raru.re)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:28:42 JST Ytrezar

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     @Nightingalle They'll never know the feel to enjoy food without restraint.

     Have a nice meal!

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     御Nightingalle (nightingalle@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:29:21 JST 御Nightingalle

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     @Ytrezar To me I don’t think it’s part of the charm, and I do think there’s a lot of charm in Japan, but being restricted by non-sense social conventions (especially if gender-specific) isn’t part of it. Being polite and considerate is nice and all though.
     
     I feel like the type of show/art/music from Japan that I admire, are often portraying the opposite of japanese unspoken rules, but rather expressing the vivid resistance and decadence FROM having had enough of those depressing restrictions
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     Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:36:51 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

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     @Nightingalle Yeah, I see the thing… I think it used to be like this here.
     
     To me that's one of the parts of Japanese culture that are meh (probably why I tend to prefer the somewhat delinquent characters in japanese shows).
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     御Nightingalle (nightingalle@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:36:52 JST 御Nightingalle

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     • Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:
     @lanodan keyword being “just men”
     
     so to me girls are more concerned that they might be judged, if they just waltz in into a street ramen place in such a “non-cute” “masculine” manner?
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     御Nightingalle (nightingalle@shpposter.club)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:43:28 JST 御Nightingalle

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     • Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:
     @lanodan being girly and cute is worthless, holding a can of asahi and yells one more is the real stuff
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     Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 16:48:25 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

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     @Nightingalle Well for me girly and cute doesn't really means having to stick to a strict etiquette or having to act in a proper manner.
     Like some "kusogakis" can be pretty cute in my opinion, and the asahi+yells but still being cute makes me think of "gap moe" stuff.