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   Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Jul-2023 03:36:48 JST Mordecai Martin

   They eat well, they sleep deeply, they shit and piss publicly and with goodwill, they make merry all day long. A baby is a rabelaisian figure. A tiny Falstaff.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Jul-2023 03:39:23 JST Mordecai Martin

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     You know, Atenea would never let me get away with it, but I still feel remiss that I didn’t name the kid Godzilla. Impressive! Vaguely religious! Strong! Gender Neutral!

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Jul-2023 04:17:10 JST Mordecai Martin

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     @GreatJoe yes but don’t beat yourself up for not noticing it literally just happened

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     Great Joe (greatjoe@ubiqueros.com)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Jul-2023 04:17:16 JST Great Joe

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     @MordecaiMartin@rage.love Whoa, you're a dad now?

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Jul-2023 19:18:10 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Spent a good half hour impersonating 70s sports broadcaster Howard Cosell interviewing my three day old child about their meteoric rise in Mexican football. Sometimes I threw an impression of Mohammed Ali into the mix, have him and Cosell make fun of each other back and forth. Good times.

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Jul-2023 20:53:00 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin awww that's adorable and also a very good way to get bebe settled & attached, they remember your voice from the womb!

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 25-Jul-2023 20:58:16 JST Mordecai Martin

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     We live on the first floor so the garbage truck outside is really loud. To stop it bothering the baby, we’ve taken to cranking the white noise machine. On ocean setting, you can pretend the back up beeping is seagulls!

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 26-Jul-2023 02:19:11 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Cool spiked hair thing this kid has going. What a punk rocker

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 26-Jul-2023 02:21:05 JST Mordecai Martin

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     @souvlaki I kept the pregnancy totally radio silent. The kid just got here and I just started talking about them! So no, you didn’t miss anything

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     dukkha blyat (souvlaki@ni.hil.ist)'s status on Wednesday, 26-Jul-2023 02:21:06 JST dukkha blyat

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     @MordecaiMartin My friend. Did I in my absence from the Fediverse miss out on a major event in your lives?

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 26-Jul-2023 03:01:55 JST Mordecai Martin

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     @umalkosh thanks friend!

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     genderbug (umalkosh@goblin.camp)'s status on Wednesday, 26-Jul-2023 03:01:56 JST genderbug

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     @MordecaiMartin mazal tov on the new baby!

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 27-Jul-2023 21:36:07 JST Mordecai Martin

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     The love I have for my child is vertiginous and wild. It is the eeriest and strangest sensation I have felt in a life of loving. I am undone. My wife told me last night that she loved our child more than me, and with great relief and joy, I told her the same. We’re going to be okay if we remember that shared value and let it guide us.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 27-Jul-2023 22:01:24 JST Mordecai Martin

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     This kid is SNOOZING! Do I dare to dream of sneaking away to take a shit?!

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 27-Jul-2023 22:27:02 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin Chances are they're going to LOVE the garbage truck in a couple more years!

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 27-Jul-2023 22:34:52 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin My husband told me it was strange and wonderful watching how I love our child, the joy and gentleness of that love, and I've similarly discovered new aspects of my husband watching him interact with so much patience and humor. Being parents together is a different dimension to the relationship yet again from being married, and got us to know each other all over again in our depths and limitations as we grow as parents alongside our child.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 27-Jul-2023 22:53:48 JST Mordecai Martin

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     @ljwrites oh man, am I looking forward to the big machines phase of life, which I myself have never fully moved on from

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 27-Jul-2023 23:16:38 JST Mordecai Martin

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     This cat is being so good about the baby. He’s being SO GOOD! Always maintaining a respectful and curious distance, just asking for attention when he needs it, generally not causing trouble. We’re so proud of what a good big brother he’s being

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Saturday, 29-Jul-2023 00:18:50 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Another morning holding this kid. Another golden morning.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Saturday, 29-Jul-2023 21:12:00 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Waiting around for my child to wake up as one waits for a king. I know this total awe of them as a being beyond me, a being of the future, can only last so long. But I intend to cherish it

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Saturday, 29-Jul-2023 22:10:27 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin You may house their bodies but not their souls,
     For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
     - Khalil Gibran's The Prophet, On Children

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Saturday, 29-Jul-2023 23:32:56 JST Mordecai Martin

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     • L.J. is reading the Daodejing

     @ljwrites Exactly

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Saturday, 29-Jul-2023 23:38:14 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Finding it easier to get things done as a dad than as a private citizen

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 31-Jul-2023 01:45:23 JST Mordecai Martin

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     A lovely walk in the park together this morning

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 31-Jul-2023 22:58:54 JST Mordecai Martin

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     A friend points out that the gig is physically demanding but not particularly intellectually stimulating .

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 01-Aug-2023 23:04:28 JST Mordecai Martin

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     My child was born with a cleft lip and is so gorgeous and adorable that it's good we're getting them the operation to close it, or else their famously beautiful face will start a weird cleft lip trend.

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 01-Aug-2023 23:19:34 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin Awww, adorable bebe! Are they feeding without trouble?

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 02-Aug-2023 02:28:47 JST Mordecai Martin

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     @ljwrites yes! We were very taken aback to find they can breastfeed without issue!

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 02-Aug-2023 02:36:53 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin that's very nice to know! That gives everyone time to figure out a surgery schedule that works for the wee one without undue rush :blobcat_hearthug:

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 02-Aug-2023 07:58:41 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Roasting a chicken to feed my family after building a table all day, reaching peak dad pretty quickly over here.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 00:42:59 JST Mordecai Martin

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     I have more time off than I thought I'd have, and it makes me feel vaguely guilty.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 11:41:16 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Every day is a big adventure

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 13:24:40 JST Mordecai Martin

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     I’m gonna shoot straight with you all: I had an extra large 3 pm Dunkin’ Donuts iced coffee with a ton of cream and like, 6 Equals, and then I danced with my infant child until the oxytocin started flowing, so I am feeling large, in charge and exactly no pain.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 19:18:09 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Newborns are like an intricate puzzle box. Actually, the puzzle box is pretty basic and easy to solve, but it does keep screaming, so.

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     maloki 🍍:ghostbat: (maloki@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 03-Aug-2023 19:35:29 JST maloki 🍍:ghostbat:

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     @MordecaiMartin <3 this is precious

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Saturday, 05-Aug-2023 02:51:37 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Pediatrician visit went well, but apparently the kids these days are into fussing and pretending to be constipated all night. Can’t say I approve of this trend. I blame Tik Tok

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 06-Aug-2023 00:38:53 JST Mordecai Martin

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     You can have a wife and child you love very much who love you and still be lonely, that’s something that can happen.

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     Bottled Fog (hag@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 06-Aug-2023 01:01:56 JST Bottled Fog

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     @MordecaiMartin Yes it is. :hug:

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 06-Aug-2023 10:03:31 JST Mordecai Martin

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     A crying baby is very demoralizing

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 08-Aug-2023 01:18:06 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Yesterday was one of this wonderful days when you see your family and loved ones for what they really are, the snug holding shape of them that lets you rest and be yourself among them. So grateful to have this child with these people.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 08-Aug-2023 02:26:56 JST Mordecai Martin

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     How is my child this stunningly beautiful? I’m glad you asked. It has large parts to do with how stunningly gorgeous I myself am

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Thursday, 10-Aug-2023 18:11:09 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Not being able to soothe a crying baby is a bad feeling, but one I’m learning not to take personally

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Friday, 11-Aug-2023 01:53:04 JST Mordecai Martin

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     I’m in a MFA in creative writing. We have two tracks, poetry and prose. I’ve been in prose this whole time. When my child was born, I joked, “I’m switching to poetry, it’s the only reasonable response to this feeling.” And that was funny . . . But now I’m doing it

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Aug-2023 21:32:36 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Some days parenting a newborn is just making sure their hands don’t scare the crap out of them

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Aug-2023 21:40:31 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin there are these little hand-socks to wrap newborn hands with, the stated reason being to prevent them from injuring themselves with their nails but maybe the real reason is that hands are too. scary 🤔

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Aug-2023 21:49:27 JST Mordecai Martin

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     @ljwrites we got a box of newborn toys that are all high contrast black and white, so that their eye sight can make them out. There’s a pair of mittens so that when they wave their hands in front of their face it “stimulates” them

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Aug-2023 21:50:40 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Why are you, as the street outside my house while my baby is sleeping, so noisy?

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Aug-2023 21:53:19 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin too much stimulation oh no! 🤣

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 20-Aug-2023 20:42:10 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Worse ways to start the day than coffee and baby snuggles

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 21-Aug-2023 05:39:02 JST Mordecai Martin

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     The cutest of my parenting responsibilities involves stopping my son’s startle reflex from waking him up. If he’s sleeping on my chest, as he is now, I do it by kissing his hands as they fly up to his face. It’s a very sweet game of whackamole

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 21-Aug-2023 06:19:24 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin awww tiny tiny hands!! :blobcat_aww:

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 23-Aug-2023 19:59:16 JST Mordecai Martin

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     My infant child is sleeping in my arms and both our stomachs are rumbling loudly. Pretty funny stuff

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 23-Aug-2023 20:11:22 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin It's a gastrointestinal duet!

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Saturday, 26-Aug-2023 19:46:44 JST Mordecai Martin

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     A real hard 48 hours. Minimum sleep, extra stress, less help. Just real tough

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Saturday, 26-Aug-2023 19:56:58 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin It's a really really tough time, especially for first-time parents! 😭 Remember to take care of yourselves as well as the little one, and remember, as long as everyone has basic needs met and no one is in active pain/danger nothing else matters nearly as much. Catch naps with earplugs in if that's what you have to do. Rooting so hard for all of you :blobcat_hearthug:

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 27-Aug-2023 20:43:52 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Holding my child and realizing that’s all life needs from me in this moment. A great peace

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 28-Aug-2023 18:24:49 JST Mordecai Martin

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     My kid is just TEARING through this formula. Week 6 developmentally appropriate growth spurt Let’s Fuckinng Gooooooooooooo

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 28-Aug-2023 19:05:32 JST Mordecai Martin

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     It is so sweaty to have a baby sleep on you. I am losing electrolytes and this kid could NOT care less, smh

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 28-Aug-2023 19:09:00 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin Nothing better than a cuddle with Big Safe Person! :blobcat_melt: Just be sure the little one has plenty of hydration, as their little body heats up faster than yours.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 28-Aug-2023 19:11:47 JST Mordecai Martin

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     @ljwrites oh they get fluids, no worries there!

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Monday, 28-Aug-2023 19:14:31 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin And you get to deal with their fluids, RIP

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 29-Aug-2023 19:25:26 JST Mordecai Martin

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     I don’t know if this was the first day of horrific gun violence since I became a parent, or if it’s just the first one I’ve noticed since the birth. I am thinking about how I want out, for me and my child. I want to go to another place, a place where this won’t happen.

     No place is perfect. Mexico, where my wife’s family live and where I’m taking my child, has its own problems, some of them just as foolishly, ruthlessly violent (although much of that violence is also due to the intervention of the USA.)

     But I’m sick of this place, the stochastic terrorism of it. I want out!

     Ridiculous a calculation as it is, between losing my life to the sort of dangers that plague the lives of Mexicans and catching a bullet from some white supremacist gunman who the news will pretend is acting alone, I’d rather risk Mexico.

     I’m getting out.

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 30-Aug-2023 18:45:30 JST Mordecai Martin

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     We decided to just use the pronouns that “go” with my kid’s genitals for a couple of reasons, but we’re trying to remember and continue advocating, to others but much more importantly, to them, that they can be anything they want, including trans if that is what they want and who they are. Even so, I find myself using gendered language in an overly familiar way that bugs me when I look at it through the lens of queerness and all I’ve learned from trans friends and family. Stuff like “thattaboy” and thinking fondly of them as “my son”, one in a long line of men unbroken back through my father’s father etc. Sentimental, and might even be harmless, but insidious. I’m trying to remember, this kid has the whole world in front of them, genders included. My job is to keep that world wide and beautiful and interesting and safe and fun and true for as long as possible, and let them make the choices, just as long as they don’t become a cop or a soldier. So I’m trying to shift my language. Instead of “my beautiful son” “my beautiful child” No “what a sweet boy” but “what a sweet baby.”

     This is me trying to give my kid the whole world. Why should femininity or trans ness or non binary life be off the table, just cuz I’m using he/him?

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 03-Sep-2023 18:00:49 JST Mordecai Martin

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     Walking that thin line between letting my kid practice soothing themselves and not ferberizing

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 03-Sep-2023 19:55:19 JST Mordecai Martin

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     This kid wants to hold their own bottles so badly! Sorry buddy, you just do not have the proprioception

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Sep-2023 09:11:07 JST Mordecai Martin

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     You know, as I sit here, reeking of my child’s goat milk scented vomit from a formula I pay 40 bucks per can for, I can only confirm my pre pregnancy suspicion: this kid really cramped my style and ruined the vibe

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     L.J. is reading the Daodejing (ljwrites@rage.love)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Sep-2023 09:41:19 JST L.J. is reading the Daodejing

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     @MordecaiMartin Lol it ain't easy! There's a few more years left of messy stuff, but the first three months are the hardest. Did you hear of the "fourth trimester" hypothesis of pregnancy? I've found the thought both weird and heartwarming, like what better indication of a social animal than the household and community sharing in "pregnancy," growing the fetus together for the final stretch in the extended womb of the home?

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 06-Sep-2023 21:14:48 JST Mordecai Martin

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     I’ve decided to stop taking only adorable pictures of my baby. Time to really push the form.

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     Bottled Fog (hag@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 06-Sep-2023 21:30:51 JST Bottled Fog

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     @MordecaiMartin Good luck with that!

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     maloki 🍍:ghostbat: (maloki@rage.love)'s status on Wednesday, 06-Sep-2023 21:36:11 JST maloki 🍍:ghostbat:

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     @MordecaiMartin i wish we got to see them, but I fully understand not posting pictures of your infants online. 💚

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 10-Sep-2023 20:51:44 JST Mordecai Martin

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     My infant child really looked me in the eyes and said, “Sleep? Me?! Calumny! Slander! In short, falsehood. The truth is I have not slept and never shall sleep, for I am a man of principle and ambition, and detest sloth in all its ugly forms”

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 10-Sep-2023 21:36:29 JST Mordecai Martin

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     You know I keep that thang on me ( my infant child in my arms)

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     Mordecai Martin (mordecaimartin@rage.love)'s status on Sunday, 10-Sep-2023 23:24:36 JST Mordecai Martin

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     @umalkosh avoid crowds where they might get sick, sadly

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     genderbug (umalkosh@goblin.camp)'s status on Sunday, 10-Sep-2023 23:24:38 JST genderbug

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     @MordecaiMartin got any plans for baby's first high holidays?