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   touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:07:15 JST touch fluffy tail
   if only she had asked reddit for advice
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     touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:13:53 JST touch fluffy tail

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     • मीper
     the kid was probably put up to it by something she heard or saw
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     मीper (meeper@waifuism.life)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:13:54 JST मीper

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     @fluffy How the fuck do you mess up parenting this much that 7 year olds so this.

     Here cheating is an often unheard of concept

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     touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:18:14 JST touch fluffy tail

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     • kaia
     • kalifera
     >people breaking up because of cheating is confusing me
     isn't it one of the biggest causes of breakups?
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     kalifera@mk.absturztau.be's status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:18:20 JST kalifera

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     • kaia

     @kaia@brotka.st @fluffy@social.handholding.io people breaking up because of cheating is confusing me. to me it sounds like a symptom at best

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:18:22 JST kaia

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     @fluffy
     he had asked Reddit for advice though
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     kalifera@mk.absturztau.be's status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:26:32 JST kalifera

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     • kaia

     @kaia@brotka.st @fluffy@social.handholding.io yeah and all those issues matter more than the act itself. like the tweet at hand. their communication issues were the reason, not the "cheating".

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:26:34 JST kaia

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     @fluffy @kalifera
     yeah, but beforehand if you had a monogamous relationship something happened. one partner found that they no longer love the other, they don't get valued enough or lack physical intimacy. or the couple has been a bad fit in the first place with very different expectations.
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     touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:26:51 JST touch fluffy tail

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     • kaia
     • kalifera
     >one partner found that they no longer love the other, they don't get valued enough or lack physical intimacy.
     i was under the impression that it's the reverse, that people used to stay together even despite that
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     kalifera@mk.absturztau.be's status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:29:55 JST kalifera

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     @fluffy@social.handholding.io yeah especially boomer.
     
     if there is an issue in a relationship and people did seriously try to fix it a breakup is reasonable. boomer prefer cheating, drugs, money, cars, whatever

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     touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:30:32 JST touch fluffy tail

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     :meowglare: boomer
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     BlobLobster (surasanji@blob.cat)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:32:38 JST BlobLobster

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     • kalifera
     @fluffy @kalifera This is why Lobster Relationships are superior.
     
     First you dig a pit, and then you defend the pit against all opponents. The sexiest pit gets the most fucks! After the fucks you leave to molt and have a meal.
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     touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:33:04 JST touch fluffy tail

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     • kalifera
     :naruhodo: are there lobter boomers, this is important
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     BlobLobster (surasanji@blob.cat)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:34:16 JST BlobLobster

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     • kalifera
     @fluffy @kalifera No. Lobsters are all technically millennials because we are biologically immortal.
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     touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:38:09 JST touch fluffy tail

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     • kaia
     • kalifera
     i don't get what you mean, what's all this talk about benefits and incentives, is your relationship some sort of video game?
     
     as far as i'm concerned, if my partner cheats on me and we're monogamous then it's over. this is not a controversial position and is actually enshrined in canon law in most countries.
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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:38:10 JST kaia

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     @fluffy @kalifera
     agreed, but the "benefits" of not cheating must outweigh the "incentives" - subjectively in that moment of cheating.
     
     as generalizations:
     
     for men it's mostly being horny without release or - mostly for older men - to verify that their virility is still intact.
     
     for women it's the wish to be desired and the need for intimacy.
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     kalifera@mk.absturztau.be's status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:51:09 JST kalifera

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     @fluffy@social.handholding.io i think what kaia means is a relationship needs value to be valued.
     
     if the relationship is a big gain one is less likely to cheat.
     
     me personally i dont really care. i can be poly or mono and i am completely fine with either. but what i am looking in at a partner is more a very close friend than some sexual or romatic need-fullfiller.

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     touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 21:51:16 JST touch fluffy tail

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     • kalifera
     i see, i understand now
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     touch fluffy tail (fluffy@social.handholding.io)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 22:14:27 JST touch fluffy tail

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     • kalifera
     i like sluts tho, just not for marriage
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     ?????? (mystik@shitposter.club)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Sep-2022 22:14:33 JST ??????

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     • kalifera
     @kalifera @fluffy
     If you have to make these calculations to evaluate "if" a commitment is worth not being betrayed then you're a bad person.
     
     >"i can be poly or mono and i am completely fine with either"
     Then you're a slut not worth anyone's time.
     
     >"what i am looking in a partner"
     You don't need "a partner", you need someone to procreate, to have a big family, for life. You're not here on this world to be served, but to serve.