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@JedDrudge @Humpleupagus @Cornelius @DixonUranus Well, both people need to be getting something really great out of the relationship. If both are very satisfied, the marriage will be fine. The wife has to provide the bedroom activities and the child rearing and the faithfulness and dutifulness. The husband has to provide the house, some emotianal support but mostly emotional stability, and he has to be virile and have an in-charge personality without being a brute. If you have a woman like that and a man like that, the relationship can flourish long into the future without degrading into cynicism as you have supposed. But really the fundamental mechanic of love-renewal is the bravery to face one's reality and to renew oneself, which in turn inspires the other to do the same. Then you stay forever young, forever lustful and passionate, and forever open to the criticisms and dissatisfactions your partner may raise.
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And this goes back to my original point. You can't openly communicate and thereby grow together if either spouse believes that their statements will be publicized or shared with others. That's why marital communications must be held in confidence no matter how trivial it may seem. If there's a fight, don't run to your friends and family. You gotta figure it out together.
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This makes me ponder situations where people claim to love one another... Fair weather friends... Both sides keeping ammunition for the future... Human nature?
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Always thought along those lines without having ever been married... Just work things out at a mature adult level...
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@JedDrudge @Humpleupagus @Cornelius @DixonUranus Usually because one person springs it on the other person, and the blindsiding is extremely cruel and tears the victim's life apart without much warning. The divorcing spouse holds little grudges and bitchy complaints inside themselves, selfishly & cowardly refusing to admit their unhappiness and seek resolution. Then the separation initiates, and the victim receives a sudden, somewhat undeserved, permanent deep emotional wound. That stirs guilt in the divorcing spouse's soul. So, the justification they tell themselves is that the other spouse really is a bad person, that they were right, and other comforting lies. Each lie embitters them, hardens them to the other person. Nastiness multiplies. And so forth. People destroy themselves, that's why they're nasty. They are cowards who destroy themselves... They are nasty because they refuse to kill themselves to pay for their dishonor, basically.
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@Humpleupagus @DixonUranus If he releases her psych records he's a fucking rat. Same as talking to the feds. Simple as.
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@Cornelius @Humpleupagus @DixonUranus she already divorced him bro why she he hold back? hmm bitch is married to a rich celebrity, divorces him because meanie, and now the onus is on him to be honourable... hmmm... im detecting a soy diet, rich in carbs.
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I just don't get why divorce has to be an emotional fight. The court doesn't split emotions; it splits assets and set custody. Getting in the mud is retarded.
I have a really good friend from law school, female. She's divorced. Her ex was also an attorney. Other than simple filings, the court was not involved. There isn't even a custody order. Why? Because, to quote her, "only trash airs their laundry in public."
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@Humpleupagus @DixonUranus Or maybe her attorney convinced her to do that for other reasons. 🤷♂️ Taking down a power conservative commentator.
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What other reason? I've heard people say that she did it because he talked about the divorce on his show.
If that's the case, you pick up the phone and spend 4 or 5 days seeing if you can privately resolve the matter so it doesn't blow up.
Now he's threatening to release psych records.
Shit like this leads to mud throwing, and hurts a common assets, his show / reputation.
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I love how her attorney managed to convince her to release the videos, so that it would inflame the parties and further complicate the divorce proceeding, and thereby, increase billables, while not helping the client in any way whatsoever.
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Imagine having a wife that hot and fucking it up by being an ass while she's pregnant. 🙄
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