Notices by Mal 甄/kalessin/Peri (perigee@rage.love)

@MordecaiMartin Violence does its intended job - it dislocates us from reason and empathy and radicalizes everyone with something to lose from it.

Terrorists and warmongers depend on it, of course, to bypass normal democratic, reasonable governmental process and get their way, panicking us into quick and instinctive, often violent responses, bypassing careful planning and compassionate execution.

I wish we would somehow all avoid being so frightened. But I also don't want people to be quashed so much they cannot mount a reasonable defense. It is so difficult! But would asking for aid and perhaps ceasefire be so wrong?

@MordecaiMartin I'm so sorry to hear that.

Yesterday, I was aggressively cruised by a man (I'm nonbinary but masculine presenting, and queer, for context, but also monogamously in a committed relationship). He was ultimately gentle and gracious enough about my firmly turning him down, if obviously disappointed and crestfallen.

His approach was very optimistic. He advertised his wealth, promoted the assumption that I would be completely willing, and that, of course, I would agree within two minutes of meeting him, agree to exchange bodily secretions and phone numbers. He clearly stated a preference for the Asian gentleman.

He said he was a salesman, and he tried to be very convincing.

I turned him down.

I went home, and posted about it on FB. And I got 10 likes. All from women friends. Because I posted about it and chided men about this kind of forceful, opt out approach to dating.

But I left out a crucial detail in the first post and indeed during the event itself. I had the privilege of being able to boldly and directly say "no".

This isn't open to every femme. That's why this kind of opt out romance is so triggering and unwelcome. Because unrequited men can turn violent.

I think silent men are complicit here, allies or not.

This is your regular reminder that 2023 "AI" is basically just a machine learning oracle stapled on the backs of poorly paid, exploited laborers who are exposed to generated horrors in content filtering sweatshops, and not miracles of technology or mathematics.