“Had you included the second part of the sentence initially I wouldn't have replied so flippantly”
you shouldn’t reply flippantly anyway. you should listen to me and take me seriously because I know what I am talking about and your knee jerk impulse to dismiss abuse concerns is exactly why the fediverse is a misogynistic trash heap. it is ypur fault specifically.
now taje your impulse to be defensive about this accusation and channel it into punching yourself in the dick