Maybe I’m being mean… I can see that this kind of erotica could have a broader appeal, I guess… it’s just often mixed in with some really weird/hateful stuff so… I guess I assumed you had to have a certain political standpoint to find it sexy… but what do I know?
I just see the whole “trad wife” as erotic fiction for men who are afraid of actual women. And of course there is a massive intersection here with all sorts of hate groups. But I really struggle to have a grownup conversation about what I see as right wing erotica. 🤷🏻♀️
There are, I’m sure, a whole slew of actual “trad wives”, but once you’re a “trad wife influencer” you’re just a woman with a job. And when you lean into the camera and use that husky voice… girl… you’re in a particular line of business. And more power to you. Get that money.
What I find really funny about the whole “trad wifes” thing is that these famous women that portray it on social media are literally working women, their job is to portray this image, that’s how they get paid. And also… I feel it’s underplayed… this is sort of a fetish thing they’re doing. And I don’t mind that. But then it’s so weird for me to see folks taking it seriously. These women are playing a role for an audience (quite specific audience often) to get paid.
We need more people from the social sciences in tech. We need people who can approach messy human data with proper analysis. Because us nerds tend to like our data clean and structured, and when it isn’t… we are often not at our best.
Ok, I’m sorry, I’m going to ruffle feathers here but… I’m trying to read some newer development process books and… oh my… even super popular ones are so immensely long winded and unconvincing in their dogmatic argumentation: this is bad, this is good, because I said so that’s why.
Recent examples that I’m struggling to finish: “Team Topologies” and “Data Mesh” - I mean they might be great but I’m getting strong “this should’ve been a blogpost” feels.
Norwegians, no matter your sexual orientation, please make June infinitely gay this year. Every opportunity you have: introduce a rainbow or fifty. Show that hate and intolerance has no place in our neighborhoods. Make sure every secretly gay kid sees at least one rainbow every day.
To take a slightly less heated issue than *gestures vaguely at the world* - I can simultaneously believe that women’s work is often undervalued and underpaid, while I also believe that men are often undervalued, ignored and discriminated against as parents. These two things can be simultaneously true. Believing that women’s health has been shamefully understudied can coexist with the belief that men should not have to tolerate being physically or emotionally abused by their partners.
I’m struggling with political conversations that are dominated by false dichotomies. Most issues are not binary and the discourses we end up having are not only divisive, but even worse: they are fundamentally uninteresting.
There has to be a way for us to have conversations without vilifying each other.
And I know this is hard because some people *do* actually take advantage of these confrontations to further their own agendas.
But we can’t let extremists define the parameters of our discussions. There has to be room for nuance. There has to be room for saying “yes, and”. There has to be room for standing *for* something without that implying that you are against something else.
To be a tad less vague, I can actually believe that human rights is not a zero sum game. That someone having human rights does not mean we have to take them away from someone else.
This process has btw been depicted in the movie “Oslo” where (as a complete aside) Andrew Scott, who plays Moriarty in Sherlock, plays Terje Rød-Larsen. Which was very hard for me to reconcile, because for some reason my brain expected him to suddenly turn nefarious at any moment. The movie is available on HBO Max here in Norway. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oslo_(film)
What it does express (perhaps indirectly) is that the “wait and see and hope” policy Norway has been doing for decades has failed.That we are further away from peace now than we were 30 years ago. So this is just a different expression of Norways constant hope for a peaceful and prosperous coexistence for the both the Israeli and Palestinian peoples.
What might not be well known internationally is that Norway has been deeply involved in mediating and facilitating official and unofficial peace talks in this conflict going back decades. They are after all called the “Oslo accords”: