Notices by ☣Blind Arachne☣ (conquestoftoast@social.xenofem.me)

@eris I know a ton of trans men and have worked with, been victimized by, befriended, and when I was still figuring out my shit, fucked. So I should be able to speak on this directly according to your criteria of who ought to have a voice on it.

But the long and short of it is I don't think anyone, or most people, who have those takes are trying to say that trans men utilize patriarchy the same way, they don't. The ways that trans men and trans masc folks benefit and utilize transmisogyny is tailored to the spaces where they *can* exercise that power dynamic. Which is largely queer spaces both online and offline. Thinking that they must act on misogyny and transmisogyny in ways that cis men stereotypically have and do just further helps ignore the problem.

But if you're looking for specific examples, heres a few that I've either personally witnessed or was targeted with:

stating they aren't really men so they can't really rape and so a trans woman was ignored and pushed out of the community for "causing drama"

selecting who can and cannot organize in mixed queer spaces based on how aggressive trans women are, blaming "male socialization", but not having to answer for similar aggression in moments of weakness

after being rejected for sex having a trans woman excommunicated for "latent misogyny"

once a trans woman shouted at a trans man after he hit her, and the DV was blamed on her and her inability to "unlearn her male behaviour"

Now those are the more extreme examples but the trend you should notice is that trans men and trans masc folks can, and do, claim kinship to the gender that subverts responsibility, and trans women are held to kinship with the gender where punishment is easier to enforce. She got angry? its her male aggression She talks about being victimized? its because shes a crazy woman.

But all of this is to say that trans men are men and men are trash is just holding trans men to the same category as men, because they can and do benefit from misogyny and transmisogyny. to fight against that very basic analysis is just #notallmen-ing and its gross and weird.

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