Notices by Random Weirdo (she/her) (sci_fi_fangirl@hessen.social)

Weil ich in den letzten Tagen hauptsächlich mit Männern mehrere Gespräche zu verschiedenen feministischen Themen geführt habe und einige davon als sehr unangenehm empfand, mal eine Frage an alle Nicht-FLINTA:

Würdest du von dir sagen, dass du feministisch bist? Warum (nicht)? Was bedeutet für dich "Feminismus"?

Mich interessieren eure Gedanken dazu, ich möchte das nicht diskutieren, aber evtl stelle ich Nachfragen.

Same thing in English:

Had some unpleasant conversations about feminist topics these last few days, especially with men. So I'd like to ask people who *are not* women, lesbians, intersex, non-binary, trans, or agender people:

Do you consider yourself to be a feminist? Why (not)? What is "feminism" to you?

I'm interested in ideas, not discussion. I may ask follow up questions.

This is just one example. I could tell so many similar stories and you could add hundreds more.

What do you do to save energy when you're already low on spoons? Most often you will choose the "easiest" way and "just do it anyway".

Because you'll end up tired and frustrated, no matter which option you choose. But the "easy solution" is also the one that doesn't hold the other parent accountable and nothing changes.

3/3

And it happens now and then that they need sth urgently and I have to buy it or they won't have it.

Yesterday, K1 (16) and K2 (14) asked me to buy new clothes. I said it was Dad's job. They said he always tried to push them to buy things the don't like and would rather do it with me.

So, I have to choose the lesser evil: not do it, have them complaining about it and resulting in me having to do more laundry, or tell my husband to do it and hope for the best, or just doing it.

2/3

#MentalLoad

If you are an AFAB person in a relationship with kids, you know what mental load is (which isn't to say that other people can't know it).

Some years ago, I tried (more or less successfully) to explain to my husband how it affects me. We agreed then that he'd be responsible for children's clothes and shoes.

Now they usually have only few pants, shirts etc which leads to me having to do the laundry more often because "I don't have anything to wear".

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@bodhipaksa Don't you see any way this might end sooner? Mass protests, civil disobedience and sabotage, military intervention... Anything?

@bodhipaksa 😕

It's so sad and disappointing to see what's happening in the US right now. Not that it surprises me, but the speed of change is insane. Hope you'll get through all this and can rebuild like you said.

[And I'm worried about our federal elections here in Germany on Sunday and the far-right AfD copying Trump's playbook.]

@Tami @the_halmaturus @ics Rote und gelbe Flecken in Kleidung gehen in der Sonne raus. Vielfach getestet 😘

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

That we don't have empathy.

@robrecht @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

No matter if it's a conscious stereotype or not - there are several studies that show how NTs react to autistic people. In general, they tend to dislike and distrust us. It's not only the lack of eye contact, but many nuanced visual cues that they interpret immediately.