Notices by Sion [main] (sparrowsion@queer.party)

@goatsarah Thank you.

And BTW, I'm not getting notifications of your replies (they're just showing in my home timeline). Bad Friendica/Mastodon interaction?

@goatsarah I worry about being seen as appropriating "trans" to describe myself. Because it's really just describing my body and a choice I've had to make about what's the least-wrong way of being forced into the social constraints of a gender binary.

I worry about cis people seeing me identify as trans and assuming that all trans people are as sloppy about things as I am and similarly aren't "really" their binary gender. And that is your business.

I've never been comfortable identifying as trans.

Partly because doing so feels like it's in conflict with how I feel about being agender. Saying I'm trans acknowledges I have a gender now which is in opposition to the one I was assigned at birth, and implicitly declares that AGAB. I want people to see me and not be able to assign a gender to me, because that's how I've been thinking about myself for half my life.

And partly because it feels like claiming an identity which belongs to other people. I don't want real trans people to think I'm appropriating something which isn't me. And I don't want cis people to develop ideas about what trans people are like based on me.

#TransDayOfVisibility

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Things I will be hating on today:

Big international companies using PayPal for credit card transactions rather than a proper payments processor.

PayPal for being so against you trying to use them without having an account that they're now just flat out refusing to accept payment from me.

@goatsarah Have they been forgiven? (Or is that why it's the Law?)