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   Sion [main] (sparrowsion@queer.party)'s status on Friday, 31-Mar-2023 19:15:49 JST Sion [main]

   I've never been comfortable identifying as trans.

   Partly because doing so feels like it's in conflict with how I feel about being agender. Saying I'm trans acknowledges I have a gender now which is in opposition to the one I was assigned at birth, and implicitly declares that AGAB. I want people to see me and not be able to assign a gender to me, because that's how I've been thinking about myself for half my life.

   And partly because it feels like claiming an identity which belongs to other people. I don't want real trans people to think I'm appropriating something which isn't me. And I don't want cis people to develop ideas about what trans people are like based on me.

   #TransDayOfVisibility

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     Sion [main] (sparrowsion@queer.party)'s status on Saturday, 01-Apr-2023 01:05:52 JST Sion [main]

     • goatsarah

     @goatsarah I worry about being seen as appropriating "trans" to describe myself. Because it's really just describing my body and a choice I've had to make about what's the least-wrong way of being forced into the social constraints of a gender binary.

     I worry about cis people seeing me identify as trans and assuming that all trans people are as sloppy about things as I am and similarly aren't "really" their binary gender. And that is your business.

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     Sion [main] (sparrowsion@queer.party)'s status on Saturday, 01-Apr-2023 01:40:26 JST Sion [main]

     • goatsarah

     @goatsarah Thank you.

     And BTW, I'm not getting notifications of your replies (they're just showing in my home timeline). Bad Friendica/Mastodon interaction?